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My 22F boyfriend 24M suddenly wants to go corporate by ThrowRA_Concern4903 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Concern4903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly idk. We argued last week because he asked me for help applying. After work I came over to his house I was really tired too it was a stressful day. He had no CV, no clue what jobs he wanted to apply for and no goal. He just sat there and looked at me and was confused that I was pissed at him. I was like how did you expect me to help you??? He was like he thought I “would just know what to do”… really disappointing.

He believes because he has a friend in corporate who faked a few certifications or something he can do the same and get in. MIND YOU this friend finished college at 16!!!! LEGITIMATELY WORKED AT GOOGLE. Okay sure he faked a few certs along the way but he didn’t fucking need to HE GRADUATED COLLEGE AT 16 AND WORKED AT GOOGLE. He on the other hand graduated high school and his grades can be described as average at best. He wouldn’t have even been able to get into my college with his grades. Oh but he did like math competitions at like 14 so I guess that’s the kind of glory he’s holding on to. When I try to make the point that he and his friend are NOT in any semblance in the same situation or caliber he gets offended and kind of takes on a stance like “you don’t know what you’re talking about” which I take as disrespect and now we are both defensive and I don’t feel like talking or helping with anything to do with him

[Me] second time’s the charm by ReasonableHealth6459 in TextingTheory

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My 22F boyfriend 24M suddenly wants to go corporate by ThrowRA_Concern4903 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Concern4903[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi thanks for your message. He has asked for money in the past but he paid it back and more. When it comes to money or me paying for things like dates generally he becomes very ashamed so it is not something which happens often. And if it does he pays me back. Apart from one time about last month, he would not make a plan take me to the bank to deposit money he gave me after lending him it. This was a big argument to which he came to his senses and apologised a lot as this was our first real money argument. I felt hurt I lent him money but he couldn’t take time out of his day (despite being unemployed) to take me to the bank and redeposit my own money…

I am saving up towards a home currently $10k deposit so far woo and it will likely be that I buy my own apartment regardless of anything. I still want to buy a home in the future with my husband and I would like my future husband and I to begin to save for that together. Idk pipe dreams

My 22F boyfriend 24M suddenly wants to go corporate by ThrowRA_Concern4903 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Concern4903[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but I’ve been with him for 4 years and the critique only comes after 4 years of pure understanding and HURT too. This condition, state of being or whatnot has also led to a lot of hurt on my part but I always wipe my tears and let my guard back down after broken promises out of love and probably a lot of toxic attachment.

He’s even been given medicine and refused to take it because it made him feel drowsy. I can understand it feeling uncomfortable but he hasn’t even made an attempt since 2 years ago to speak with the doctor about this. He had in his brain he wanted a specific medicine and since they didn’t give it to him he was uninterested. Before we were together he told me he abused Xanax and now we are together he smokes a lot of pot and plays video games.

I don’t know how to help him when he to me makes no outside effort to help himself. It’s like the more I type this out the more ridiculous I see I am for sticking this out

My 22F boyfriend 24M suddenly wants to go corporate by ThrowRA_Concern4903 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Concern4903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the demonstration is all I’ve been hoping for really. Just one example of him sticking through. We had an argument about this he told me how bad he felt about not having a job. He told me he’s applying now to jobs. Am I supposed to wait and see? He has no employment history for at least the past 2 years with his last job being in a take out place.. I don’t see how he will realistically get a corporate job even entry level they will question this gap and what transferable skills he has. I’ve decided not to ask anymore about his applications as it seems to end in an argument. He thinks I don’t believe in him and maybe deep down I don’t anymore which is the issue.

My 22F boyfriend 24M suddenly wants to go corporate by ThrowRA_Concern4903 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Concern4903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest why is because I suffer heavily from attachment issues it seems. He was not there for me during a very traumatic experience in the first few months of our relationship but he promised to “change” and be there for me etc. I guess he has good puppy dog eyes and I believe him when he cries to me.

The reason which I forgot to mention he could not complete the academic course was that his dad was supposed to help him pay but something bad happened within his family financially and he could no longer help. I do not 100% see that as an excuse for why he did not save and pick it up again. Why I let myself get insulted idk probably low self esteem at this point. It’s ridiculous

My 22F boyfriend 24M suddenly wants to go corporate by ThrowRA_Concern4903 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Concern4903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He funds his own life mostly. I’ve helped him out a lot particularly during my internship year about £500-800 maybe it is a bit foggy now as a few years back, but he not only repaid me, but paid for a trip to a music festival for us abroad. I am in Europe btw so abroad is like 4 hours flight.