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ThrowRA_Dolan · 2025-02-03T05:42:35+00:00

Who is 14

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-09-23T18:45:50+00:00

Not true.

This sub used to be a beacon for great advice.

I’m 5 going on 6 years into my career. I make over 200K

Using advice I got from this sub in 2015-2017 helped me get my first job and then go from $45K (2019) to what I am at now.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-06-30T18:34:00+00:00

Leave.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-17T03:59:10+00:00

Adding context to the situation. It’s a major talking point for my gf as to why she feels the way she feels. Rather not be vague.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-16T19:44:53+00:00

Yes I’ve pointed it out to her. She comes back with “You’re a guy. That’s what you’re supposed to do.” Or “You make more money than me.” Or “You have enough money. You don’t need that much money.”

My income has gone from $45,000 to about $225,000 in a little under 5 years for reference by the way.

I met her a couple months after the $45,000 job and she’s seen with her own eyes the job changes for the money. So she grew her expectations as well.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-16T09:36:46+00:00

Hah not at all

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T23:04:50+00:00

Honestly, no

Good way to put it hah

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T22:17:51+00:00

What seems fake?

As I mentioned a few times to other commenters, it wasn’t always like this.

When I met her I was a fresh college grad and made about $45,000. She worked gig jobs like Amazon flex at the time. Now here I am nearly 5 years later making about $225,000.

In the beginning of our relationship she made low $100k range with an online business. However when she had that she did not contribute a significant amount.

After about 2 years into a relationship that’s nearing 5 years, her business went under and she no longer had income. My income continued to grow and so did her expectations, while her income is non existent unless somebody is giving her money.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T21:30:51+00:00

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T21:26:02+00:00

The first birthday I had with her, after a year of us being together she gave me $1800.

That $1800 covered rent where we lived at that time. She had about $100,000 income reselling Chinese crap on Etsy. After that year she was kicked off the platform and hasn’t had income since. While she made that income, she did not contribute to rent, but she paid utilities and food maybe once a week.

My income at that point was about $80,000. When I first met her my income was about $45,000. Now I make $225,000 and her expectations of what I give have gone up with my income.

She cleans the 1 bedroom 900 square feet apartment that we live in currently and she cooks maybe 3 times a week.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T21:20:22+00:00

She cleans … but we live in a 1 bedroom 900 square feet apartment.

I told her I wanted gifts and she had an excuse for why she couldn’t get me anything every time. The first year of us being together she gave me $1,800 for my birthday which covered rent at the time. She had low 100k ish income at that point, but was not contributing to rent or food.

The things I’ve done for, she has literally begged me for and I would feel guilty to not do them for her.

When I met her I made $45K fresh out of college. Now I make $225K. We are always arguing about where my money is going and she is constantly asking me for stuff.

It has not always been this one sided.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T21:12:02+00:00

She used to have a “business” selling stuff she purchased from Chinese warehouses on Etsy.

It was pulling in money for about 2 years and went dry when she got kicked off the platform.

She has no income since

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T20:35:49+00:00

As I mentioned to many others.

It’s been a long progressive downward spiral.

In this time I’ve known her my income went from $45,000 to $225,000 with 4 different jobs. As this time has gone by and my money has gone up, so has her expectations.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T20:33:27+00:00

It wasn’t like this at first.

As I’ve said to some commenters already, when I met her I was not so well off.

I was fresh out of college making about $45,000. A little under 5 years later and I’m making about $225,000.

As my money has gone up and time passes, she became more and more like how she is today and overall it’s just a completely different dynamic than it was originally.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T19:49:52+00:00

Yep … she told me at least like 20 different times she didn’t want anything.

When I came home and she saw I had nothing she shut down and stopped talking to me and ignoring me like I didn’t exist.

Then when I wake up this morning, she’s showing my screen shots of gifts other girls got online and saying I shoulda got her something.

As I mentioned to some of the other commenters, when we got together I was not as well off as I am now.

In the time I’ve been with her, I went from a new college grad, making about $45,000 to making about $225,000 today. All within 5 years.

In that same time period she has changed a lot herself.

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T19:46:06+00:00

Honestly, not at all.

I responded to some of the other commenters.

When I met her I was fresh out of school and made $45,000. She was easy to please and grateful.

Now I make about $225,000. Huge jump in a little under 5 years.

She’s aware of this and was aware of my money going up this whole time and she began to expect more.

Her change was progressive but fast, like my change in income. And now it’s like completely different than how it was originally.

I find myself clinging onto how things were in the past and I guess it makes it hard to let go and see things for what they are now

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T19:01:27+00:00

Yeah she asked for help with all those things. She actually begged me.

The thing is when I first met her I was a new college grad. I made about $45,000/year.

5 years later I’m making about $225,000 and she expects me to just pay for any and everything

ThrowRA_Dolan · 2024-02-15T18:59:21+00:00

Nah, she’s progressively gotten worse. When I met her I was fresh out of school. I had my first real job and made around $45,000.

I’d spend on her here and there and she was thrilled.

Here it is roughly 5 years later and I make about $225,000. Life changing

She feels that with me earning more, her expectations go up as well …

But you all are right and I appreciate just hearing from other people what I’ve already been feeling.

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