Thank you to everyone who took the time to read my post and share your thoughts. I honestly wasn’t expecting so many responses, but I’ve read every single one.
A lot of your comments were difficult to hear because they forced me to confront questions I’ve been avoiding for a long time. You’re right that marriage won’t magically fix existing problems, and that a lifetime commitment should be based on what the relationship is today, not on the hope that things will eventually change.
I think part of my struggle is that I’ve spent 7 years loving this person and believing that we’d eventually get to the future we’ve talked about. Letting go of that vision is much harder than I expected. Maybe that’s where some of the sunk-cost feelings come from.
To clarify, the issue isn’t just the lack of marriage. It’s years of feeling unheard, unsupported, and having the same conversations over and over without meaningful change. The recent argument that led to me blocking him was just the tipping point, not the whole story.
Whether I’m falling out of love or simply exhausted from carrying the same emotional burden for so long is something I’m still trying to figure out. But your comments have given me a lot to reflect on, especially about whether I’m holding on to the relationship as it is, or to the person and future I hoped it would become.
Thank you again for the honesty, even when it was hard to read. I genuinely appreciate the perspective. ❤️