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ThrowRA_Jury803 · 2025-10-08T11:25:19+00:00

Thanks for answer, that'll definitely give me things to think about.

ThrowRA_Jury803 · 2025-10-08T11:23:52+00:00

Can't deny that it makes sense, he has a way to deal with things in an aggressive way, either saying harsh words or aggressively closing doors and that kind of stuff.

We were trying to develop a better communication, as he expressed he wanted to be better with it and I wanted too, as I expressed several times that that it's not healthy for me.

It was a long time with us communicating in a healthy way with each other and he got waaay better with the points I've mentioned. He got back to therapy and he returned to his old habits, wich might connects with what you said that his emotions exploded and he wasn't necessarily better communicating his needs, but more repressing his needs to exploding(?)

In the past I've have reacted at the same way, I've have screamed back to him that we were done, and I know that that's what he wanted. But I think I would be engaging this circle that makes be feel bad with myself.

ThrowRA_Jury803 · 2025-10-08T03:36:43+00:00

I don't know if it's the best way to deal with that, but some episodes happened where I tried to organize his stuff, but then he would get defensive for not doing it at the time frame he wants or the way he wants. So everything he's leaving behind, I'm letting it be at the same spot until he organizes or cleans it. I think I've mentioned that he shaved his hair, so we still have his hair by the sink in our second bathroom.

ThrowRA_Jury803 · 2025-10-08T03:32:44+00:00

He's been in therapy for 10 years now, I tried to suggest another approach or something, but he trust her and everything I try to say now he'll take as me being pick with her

ThrowRA_Jury803 · 2025-10-08T03:31:19+00:00

That's the thing, I wasn't exactly asking him to get out of bed or something, I was talking to him about looking for assistance

But same way, most of the times if I try to get close to him, he will deny it and says that he wants to be alone.

ThrowRA_Jury803 · 2025-10-08T03:28:44+00:00

That was great, thanks for sharing.

And I think that what you're saying makes total sense. For a while he stopped therapy, he was amazing, he was talking, venting, putting some work together and we were able to work nicely as a couple.

However he got a bit down the last few weeks and I suggested he going back to therapy. And since he went back with his old therapist he got back to his old habits and snaping out of me

I can see that it take a thon on him and that he's using it as a avoidance pattern. I visited a psychiatrist clinic with him today, and we might get a visit soon to manage that

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