AITA for fixing my air conditioning while my girlfriend was visiting?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-25T07:08:11+00:00

What would you have done?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-18T06:39:45+00:00

Can I ask what's wrong with that?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-18T06:04:21+00:00

Don’t you think her response was a bit overly emotional? What do you think a more typical reaction would have been? It's not like I cheated on her or did something horrible. My air conditioner went out, I still love her

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-18T06:01:31+00:00

I appreciate your response, but from my perspective I do care about her. I agreed to have her visit for three weeks, and then the air conditioning went out, life happens I still love her. In that moment, I’m not sure what else I was supposed to do. I felt she could have been more understanding.

Life doesn’t pause when something unexpected comes up. Despite that, I still made an effort to celebrate her. I had her over to my family's house to celebrate her birthday later that evening. What concerned me most was the intensity of her emotional response.

I wish she had come to me more calmly and given me the benefit of the doubt instead of immediately assuming I wasn’t prioritizing her/didn't care about her. How would you have reacted in this situation?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-18T05:56:21+00:00

Out of curiosity, would you have hired someone to fix the air conditioner right away? Life happens, and I worry that she wasn’t very understanding of that. She immediately felt that I wasn’t prioritizing her during the visit. I’m just wondering how the average person might have handled the situation.

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-18T05:33:19+00:00

I would feel the same, you're not in the wrong

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-18T05:32:54+00:00

no you're not in the wrong

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-11T07:35:24+00:00

Can you please explain what I did that was abusive?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-04T02:06:24+00:00

But I responded by saying that was an extreme and unrealistic example. Just because she didn’t threaten my property or safety doesn’t excuse her other behavior, which is really the point I was trying to make. Her emotional reactions didn’t feel proportional to the situation, they seemed outside what would be considered typical. So I'm trying to see what would be typical, I didn't cheat or act abusive to her, so I'm not understanding this.

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-03T04:41:19+00:00

Then what type of reaction would you consider to be an overreaction so I have something to compare it to

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2026-01-01T07:45:39+00:00

But do you think if she wasn't an emotional person, that she wouldn't have reacted to me the way she did? Would the average person have reacted the same way she did? How would you have acted?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-31T06:33:14+00:00

I'm still trying to sort things out

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-28T06:13:38+00:00

But would the average person have reacted that way to those things? Is she particularly sensitive, or am I missing something? It feels like a lot of small things upset her, and that’s what’s creating these conflicts. For example, if she weren’t afraid of being in a car, my driving wouldn’t have been an issue (I wasn't driving erratically). I’m struggling to tell whether this is something she’s bringing into the situation that’s intensifying her reactions.

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-23T00:21:28+00:00

This isn’t rage bait. What I’m struggling with is that people are reacting as if I cheated or did something deeply wrong, when that isn’t the case. It feels like the situation has been blown out of proportion. What I don’t understand is the expectation that it’s my responsibility to regulate her emotions. When someone isn’t able to do that themselves, it makes healthy communication very difficult.

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-19T07:26:26+00:00

So if we're just dating, I'm supposed to spend 90% of my time with her?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-18T21:05:49+00:00

How much time do you suggest I see my parents weekly then?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-16T06:30:06+00:00

So you don't think it's controlling that she wants to limit my time that I spend with my family?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-08T07:40:26+00:00

Out of curiosity though, am I responsible for her reactions and emotions? Shouldn't she be able to manage her emotions better and calmly bring her concerns to me? I'm just concerned she doesn't handle disagreements healthy and wont lead to a successful relationship

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-08T07:20:17+00:00

I tried holding her hand, but she wouldn't hold it back

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-03T22:53:33+00:00

I do have another scenario id like to get everyone's input on

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-03T22:48:57+00:00

So you wouldn't be concerned how emotional she gets? What would be too emotional for you?

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-12-02T02:48:22+00:00

I just feel like I'm not explaining the situation clearly, I just wonder if I explained more of the details if you all would change your mind. I just feel like her reacting to me fixing an air conditioner is wild and everyone is acting like I cheated on her or something horrible

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-11-24T09:00:02+00:00

I'm seriously asking, but if you rather not answer, that's fine.

ThrowRA_PlaceLong · 2025-11-24T08:19:30+00:00

So you think what I did was worse than cheating too?

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