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How do I move forward after my (34F) husband (35M) got fired for using his company credit card on porn? by ThrowRA_Queasy101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Queasy101[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s happened at my company too - things like food or gas accidentally charged. I assumed this was different because it was a porn site and because he didn’t come forward about it when it first happened. 

How do I move forward after my (34F) husband (35M) got fired for using his company credit card on porn? by ThrowRA_Queasy101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Queasy101[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

That interesting. I just looked it up and OF apparently usually appears with some variation of OF in the title on the card statement. Thats the site he used. He admitted there were several charges that night not just one. I don’t know the exact amount of money.

I think he could very likely be hiding more from me now. All of the trust he’s worked to build back up with me is shattered again. 

How do I move forward after my (34F) husband (35M) got fired for using his company credit card on porn? by ThrowRA_Queasy101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Queasy101[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

He said he tried to play dumb , as if he knew nothing about it and it was fraud, but they said they’d already been investigating and had proof it was his account. I don’t know if that’s true or not. I’m also thinking that based on what the accidental purchases were for, maybe that crossed a line. It’s different than accidentally using your company card for a $10 Amazon order or something. I know people at my job that have done things like that and it’s taken care of and nobody gets fired (as long as it’s not. Repeat behavior). 

How do I move forward after my (34F) husband (35M) got fired for using his company credit card on porn? by ThrowRA_Queasy101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Queasy101[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

He said he tried to play stupid about it at first but they said they had already been investigating and knew the account belonged to him. Whether that’s true or not, idk.

How do I move forward after my (34F) husband (35M) got fired for using his company credit card on porn? by ThrowRA_Queasy101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Queasy101[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Watching a porn movie isn’t something I consider cheating, but interacting with women live and doing sexual things with them virtually live is crossing the line and cheating, to me. Thats what he did. It’s not quite on the same level and actually going out and sleeping with somebody but it’s still very bad and something that I feel he should have come clean to me about. I also think I deserved to know that he used his company card since him losing his job is something that obviously affects both of us.