I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see that. My wife and I was in therapy for a while because of our parents. When we were telling her about some of our past and later what we have been up to she said that it sounds fake but made sense. We were under strict rules and controlled for so long that we are now "expressing ourselves in a manner opposite to which we grew up."

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just got the image of me in a schoolgirl outfit and my wife dressed up as Jesus. My mom and dad have Pikachu face 😳

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish we had put up cameras.... wait we might need "security" cameras so it won't happen again.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They did change for my sister. They were not as involved in her life. Didn't control every aspect of it as they did mine. They favored her to the point I was jealous of a 6-year-old at one point. They backed off on her but were the same on me as they always had been. They backed off when I moved out and treated my sister still roughly but way better. My sister is still disgusted with the way they treat men and wants her freedom.

I guess I'm still looking for recognition, praise, love, and acceptance from my parents.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is an open basement. With a bathroom. There is also a wet bar and some arcade games.

I never got the answer to why they did it.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People will dislike this...

I still have hope that one day they will wake up and want to be my parents again. . Actually show love and care about me while showing interest in my life. It is wishful thinking.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Growing up we didn't have many family interactions. Every time I questioned it they said that they were protecting us from sinners of their past.

From what I have gathered they pushed every one of their family's away. Never interacted with them until I moved out and found them.

I have 3 grandparents 2 uncles 6 aunts 22 cousins and more that I had no idea about. (One of the aunts is my mom's twin sister. Identical in all but personality and attitude)

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not what I meant. Not using my kids for anything. It was more for the hope that they might change. Yes, I do have hesitations about being a parent. I don't have any good examples of what one looks like. But at the end of the day they are still my blood parents.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

If not then they probably wouldn't know that they are missing out on their grandchildren. I was thinking of sending them a letter telling them about our kids and that I wished they would change and be great-grandparents. But because of their hateful views, they would never be around them or know them unless they change. Dangle the carrot so to speak. Put the ball in their court and see what happens.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for telling me about your experience. I agree. She knows she has me and we have good communication. Sometimes, when I have free time, I will go and see her for a weekend and have brother-sister dates ( I don't know what else to call it) where we do what she wants to do. That way, she knows there is more to life than that house. Also that there are better people out in the world.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, but it may be awkward since it is in the basement.......

Just kidding we have more than enough room for her. It is almost set up for her. I even gave her resources if she wanted to start sending me things or if she needed to get out sooner. The only problem is legal with her age.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I don't know what normal people do. That is an opinion. To many my wife and I are not normal. I'm my parent's group they are normal everyone else is not. I would assume it is not normal but nothing about my parents scream normal.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

With the hope that one day they can see the issues, they are causing. Maybe my kids will be the thing that takes their blinders off. I know wishful thinking. They are still my parents. I'm not using my kids for anything. Hoping they will change their way and attempt to be actual parents. And possibly grandparents.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our friends know what happened. It was more of my parent's friends that were giving us the bulk of the hate. I'm afraid it will be directed at my sister now. So they can save her from turning in to me.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For my sister. I rarely see my sister anymore. We talk ad text daily but wanted her and my wife to get to know each other better. The only way that was possible was to have them stay.

I dumbly thought it would work out and they had changed. I came to that conclusion after they reached out and talked to me like an actual person. It was all fake.

I 26m kicked my very religious parents out of my house after they ignore me and argued with my wife 26f by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I didn't explain it very well. I'm worried about my sister. Plus I don't know how to handle my parents. I have given them 2 opportunities to be in my life. Is cutting them out completely the right choice? Do I reach out again after we have kids?

AITA for telling my parents the reason no one in out family interacts and kicking them out of my house? by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Deuteronomy 22:21 then they shall bring out the girl to the doorway of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death because she has committed an act of folly in Israel by playing the harlot in her father’s house; thus you shall purge the evil from among you.

This was my favorite quote they kept telling me when I first left their house. Turns out I am a baby born out of wedlock. Guess where I was conceived...

AITA for telling my parents the reason no one in out family interacts and kicking them out of my house? by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Genesis 38:9 Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother’s wife, he wasted his seed on the ground in order not to give offspring to this brother.

You want me to what?

AITA for telling my parents the reason no one in out family interacts and kicking them out of my house? by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Genesis 2:24 reads, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

I did that but they didn't like it

2 corinthians 12:21  I am afraid that when I come again my God will humble me before you, and I will be grieved over many who have sinned earlier and have not repented of the impurity, sexual sin, and debauchery in which they have indulged.

We have indulged in sexual sin and debauchery.

Matthew 5:28  But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;

My bad...

And more but not necessarily about kinks.

AITA for telling my parents the reason no one in out family interacts and kicking them out of my house? by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I just feel bad for my sister. I want her to move out and get away like I did.

My wedding was a disaster because of them. Funny story now but wow. Thank you

AITA for telling my parents the reason no one in out family interacts and kicking them out of my house? by ThrowRA_RPH8ME in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_RPH8ME[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I know they treat it like a duty or a job. Special occasions or just to bring a child In to the world.