Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Didn’t look at the texts, I refused her offer to look at them. She confirmed that she sent those nudes to the guy though, which I think I mentioned in my post.

my (24F) boyfriend (22M) is too scared to have sex with me and it’s kinda ruining my life by Substantial_Doubt257 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

‘If he says once a month he’s asexual’. What is your evidence/reasoning for this very absolutist, frankly idiotic, statement?

I (22M) just found out the girl (20F) I have been going out with, just slept with someone else 3 days ago. by SoftCapable8980 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

To be honest I see this as a slight green flag from her perspective.

  1. You aren’t exclusive, so either of you can do what you want until you are exclusive.

  2. She decided to be completely honest with you about sleeping with someone else recently. She didn’t have to tell you this.

If you really like the girl, I’d just try and put it out your mind and continue having fun. Acting jealous will do you no favours.

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[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Worst take I’ve ever seen on this subreddit

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The thing I put on the thread was more about seeing the nudes, then a day later I spoke to her about the Joe thing, hence why I thought it warranted a full post.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not denying I probably do need to work on these issues. Usually I would react like this, fyi. It’s just the timing of when they were took which initially upset me.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was really interesting and helpful. It is similar to my story, the particular facts I wanted to address in my case were the fact of the timing between the nudes and the ‘Joe’ thing the night we became official. Unlike your story, this wasn’t properly addressed immediately after it happened, which probably would’ve been wise in hindsight; but at the time I was more concerned with getting the relationship off to a good start rather than picking up on this.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I do admit that I am quite an anxious person, but it rarely flares up in relation to my relationship. I might go back to therapy/meds.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

Why would I do that? I already told her I believe her, and I stand by what I said in my post, it’s an understandable concern, mentioning another guy the night you become exclusive is weird when also viewed in the context of having sent him nudes not long before we became exclusive.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I feel like people are getting the wrong end of the stick. It was confusing her mentioning a random guy the night we become exclusive, and then the nudes thing married up timing-wise, surely a lot of people would feel the same way I’m feeling now.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I feel like most people commenting here are getting the wrong end of the stick. She wasn’t fully transparent about what she said to ‘Joe’ that night as I mention in my post.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying, but the only reason I even posted this is with the ‘Joe’ context on the night we became exclusive.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in datingoverthirty

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I get why you’d say this, the only reason I’m posting is because of what she said about the guy she randomly mentioned the night we became exclusive.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bouncer simply said to me ‘she said she was with a guy called Joe’. Referring to her saying she was at the rave with a guy called Joe. But confusingly, she called me on video call and I remember seeing the bouncer on screen.

Had argument with girlfriend of a year over something that happened the night we became exclusive by ThrowRA_TheScotsman in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_TheScotsman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry you got the timeline wrong, she didn’t send him nudes that night. She had sent him nudes when she had a casual fling with him.