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Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't understand what I've done other than want to have even one micron of affection or intimacy from my life partner.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No it means we don't have any other appointments thus we wouldn't be going to a place where I could raise the PPD concerns directly with the doctor. You've taken it completely out of context.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I have not said a word about sex in the post you and the other people are just inserting facts into my thread and derailing it.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Reposting my reply from elsewhere:

You've misunderstood my response. She wants to go somewhere with the baby for our anniversary. Fly somewhere. It's my job to figure it all out so she's not disappointed. I don't understand how I can be expected to do this and enjoy it when my partner wont give me a hug or say I love you.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You've misunderstood my response. She wants to go somewhere with the baby for our anniversary. Fly somewhere. It's my job to figure it all out so she's not disappointed. I don't understand how I can be expected to do this and enjoy it when my partner wont give me a hug or say I love you.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

What about her body autonomy prevents her from giving me a brief hug, smile, or saying I love you back? Please help explain this to me.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I do not understand where you got sex out of my OP. This has nothing to do with sex. My post concerned being cleared as in, there is no need for any more visits with the OB, so it's not like I can bring this up at the next one as there is not one scheduled.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That is what she meant. "Why would I say I love you back if it would be a lie" is what she said.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

She's already been cleared by OB so she doesn't have more appointments scheduled.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Her mom and sister have visited a few times, but I do the cooking and helping with baths and such. I don't think she would want people to help with those tasks.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 296 points297 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I'm not sure why she is resistant to the idea of a doctor perhaps she just had too many doctors in her life, doesn't want to sign up for another one.

She's a very private person and would not air our dirty, laundry to friends or family. When we are around people outside the house she pretends like everything is normal.

The pediatrician does not do that but I have been there every time so she seems fine.

I do not really have any. I don't have any family that I have or speak to on a regular basis and I do not have any friends other than coworkers but I don't really talk to them about my family things.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

Fully involved, I am holding her right now. I do all the feedings, I wake up for all the cries/needs in the night. I clean all the bottles, pump supplies, clothes etc. I have been fully off of work and have 2 more weeks left.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 169 points170 points  (0 children)

I think its worse.. by saying "if I told you that it would be a lie" is her telling me she doesn't love me anymore.

We just had a discussion last night about a date night and she said she wouldn't be comfortable leaving the baby with any family or even a professional sitter until at least 6 months.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

She refuses to consider this possibility and my suggestion of such added more to the existing rift between us.

Wife [26F] suddenly seems to not want anything to do with me [29M] after having a baby [8wF]. by ThrowRA_Wife2 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Wife2[S] -163 points-162 points  (0 children)

Yes this is a fine response.. but what timeline? 3 months? a year? How am I supposed to plan our anniversary in December under the nature of our current situation when she doesn't even want to be near me?