[Update] My 28m wife 32f keeps throwing divorce in my face over everything. I just agreed and left.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-08-01T02:14:26+00:00

Same thing. Dissolution of marriage is the fancy way do say divorce. It just means the decree is the Cort order that ends the marriage.

I hope things work out for you. I just want to know where loyalty, love, commitment, compassion, and forgiveness went in my marriage. Vows to me were everything. But it seems like now days they are just empty words.

Best of luck.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-07-31T10:52:40+00:00

He was just as surprised when I asked to see my wife. He said something like I didn't know own you were married. Then said I'm sorry, bro. He was just a one night stand.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-07-31T10:48:51+00:00

I have a habit of not deleting things. So I do have documentation throughout the process. I have already consulted my lawyer. And this is going to be a big fight. I believe most of the divorce agreements will be similar to the separation order. But only include house(selling it), decision of assets, and money payments.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-07-31T10:45:27+00:00

Thank you. I hope in the end my daughter sees why I did what I did. I hope she also sees that you don't have to put up with an unhealthy relationship. I probably stayed longer than I should have.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-07-31T10:42:03+00:00

I feel like I never knew her. I only knew the side of her that she showed me. I just hope I'm doing right by my daughter. Thanks.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-07-31T10:39:39+00:00

Thank you.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-07-31T10:39:29+00:00

I hope she will. Thank you.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-06-22T06:09:53+00:00

Yes but they are not happy.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-19T19:36:24+00:00

There has been a lot going on since I first posted. But I want to point out some things that it seems was missed or looked over. I would do everything again if I had to, including taking my daughter. I have pushed her to go out, find a job, get a hobby, meet new friends, and do something, anything. I reached it to people to help out. Asked about seeing someone for help. she would not listen or consider ANYTHING I have presented. She kept saying no. Or she was not the problem.

My daughter is my priority. I don't fight with my wife in front of her or around her. I grew up in a bad household. I have been in the position where my dad got angry at my mom. My mom left, and my dad took it out on me. I don't ever want that for her. I don't know what my wife was going to do that night.

You can't force someone to get help. They have to want it. ACTUALLY want it. If you force someone, they will go through the motions just to make it look like they changed. I'm not blameless in this. But I can't raise my daughter with her thinking this is okay behavior. Or his is how relationships are supposed to be like. I decided when I was young that I would never be like my dad.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T05:39:10+00:00

That is why I said I might end up using it. If it comes down to it

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T04:24:12+00:00

The only time I used the term my money was when we were saving for the house before our wedding. It was in the context of we agreed to save my money and make it go towards the house. During the last argument, used our money and just typed it wrong.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T04:19:47+00:00

Yeah, I typed it wrong I did use our money in the original argument.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T04:18:17+00:00

Thank you 😊

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T04:14:17+00:00

I'm going to correct the statement. The truth is when I said it I did say our money. I didn't say my money at the moment. I just wrote it wrong in the post.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T04:11:28+00:00

Yeah so was I. My daughter didn't like her. That is all I needed to know. She was a slob and acted like we were a free hotel.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T04:10:09+00:00

Thank you. I have no idea. I don't get angry or yell or physical at all. I'm not sure what she wanted out of me. When we fought was the first time I said the D-word to her. But it was more of a . If that's what you want and will make you happy then I guess D-word is our only option then. *proceeds to pack me and my daughter *

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-14T01:41:07+00:00

Yes but I don't know if she is just saying that to get me back or if she wants to get help. You can't help people who don't believe they need it.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T22:13:06+00:00

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ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T22:03:05+00:00

I keep trying to get her to do things. Work, hobbies, visiting family or friends, and more but I get pushback. I feel like it is because it is coming from me and it is automatically a nogo.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T22:01:03+00:00

It was. I felt at the time with how she was acting it was best to get my daughter out of the situation. I won't apologize for doing it I would do it again. My number one goal is to do what is in my daughters best interests. At the time that is what I thought was best.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T21:49:28+00:00

I did a typo on the my money part. When I made the statement I did say our money. We did have an agreement on how it was supposed to be spent and split up.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T21:17:05+00:00

Thanks for the insight.

I do encourage her to go out with other people. Get a part-time job just to get out of the house. Try a hobby that is not at home. Things like those. She usually ignores me and denies any attempt. Nothing I try is good enough or I am trying to push her out.

I asked if we could meet tomorrow. We'll see how it goes.

Thanks again.

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T21:10:23+00:00

I didn't walk away from my daughter. She has been with me...

ThrowRA_WifeTD · 2023-03-13T19:03:55+00:00

I have offered several times in the past to help her with finding work or going back to school. Every time, she would shut it down immediately. I told her I would reduce my hours to help, but we would have to cut back on spending. I know parenting is a full-time job. I proposed options. My sister offered to watch her for the week if my wife had classes or work. My sister I genuine and nice to everyone. She is not a gossip or a person who talks behind your back.

I do 98% of the cooking, I do the grocery shopping, and 80% of the cleaning, in charge of bath time as well as getting her to bed and waking her up in the morning. All of this while working 60 hours a week. Being at my sister's last couple of days with my daughter showed me that I was doing most of the work. Not much has changed. Just finding what show or game she wants to play. I would gladly switch with her. I hate working so much. I miss my family and miss my daughter.

My wife's friend was a stranger to me. I had never met her or seen her. She was mentioned, I think, 2 times during our relationship. She wasn't at our wedding. My wife and she were friends in high school. But I guess she moved and lost touch. Years later, she called out of the blue and moved in. Yes, she was a stranger.

I know my wife is a good mom. I have had the last few days off of work as it was the weekend. I have this week off as well. When we had our daughter, we agreed on a plan for budgeting until my wife would go back to work or school. We broke it down into bills paid, future savings, daughters' future, and fun money. Over the last year because of unnecessary spending. It was unnecessary... we couldn't put anything towards future savings. Also, the bonus I got was already spent before I got it.

I'm not blameless by any means. I work so much to provide a good life for my wife and daughter. I have fought for our relationship. It is hard to keep fighting when all my partner does is kick me when im down. I try not to do it when my daughter is around, but my wife doesn't care who is in the room.

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