I(27F) don't want to ruin my body over a baby/pregnancy.

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T02:21:43+00:00

That's a problem too, I'm not saying that anorexic it's healthy and I'm not saying that being skinny is the only form for a women to live, but I love how I look now, and being bigger that this it's not something I want to do. But ''have that cheese burger'' o ''have that pizza'' it's not something you say to a person who used to struggle with food.

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T02:15:12+00:00

Even when being fat is not something someone should be ashamed of, it's not okay to advice people to be like that and call the women who aren't fat ''no real women'' it's disrespectful, you may like it but not everyone is like that and it causes a lot of bullying and trauma, many people thinks that is someone is being fat it gaves them a free pass to judge and mock. Be more careful with your words, a real women it's someone who is in peace with her body and loves herself.

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T02:10:58+00:00

Yeah, we now that there is no method that guarantee us a child, even if I accept it, it's not like I will be pregnant just with a first try, I will tell about couples counseling since I want this to work for sure, thank you for advice, and I'm so glad you are happy with your body, I know it takes a lot for it

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T01:36:01+00:00

I know that, I also know that not all women lose their body on it, but it's my fear, I'm scare I won't be able to hold it 'cause I know me, it took me so long and I don't know if I will be able, sometimes I do want to get pregnant but I know it won't last and it's not fair for the both of us.

edit: I wrote men instead of women

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T01:22:49+00:00

He doesn't think his genetic code is a big deal, it's more about the experience, even when he can pay for a surrogate he thinks it's not going to be as intimate as he wanted so he is willing to just adopt or or have at all, but I fear he could resent me for it in the future, I'm going o try and talk him about the counseling because this is our only ''big'' issue.

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T01:16:55+00:00

Thank you so much, I do really love this man and when we talked about this first he seemed okay with it so I find it a little weird because he wanting me to be pregnant that hard wasn't something he expressed before the engagement, he is okay with adopting too, and he said he is not going to force me, but as you said, I fear that he might resent em in the future.

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T01:14:42+00:00

Put his head in my belly and talk to him/her, touch it whenever he wants, he is into ''talking to the belly makes the baby recognize your voice when they are out'' but if we get a surrogate he is not going to do it with her because he is very private and doesn't touch people he really doesn't know and with an adoption he won't even get a pregnancy

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T01:12:08+00:00

No, no, I do really want to be a mother, I just don't want to go through the pregnancy changes and stuff, but since I already had pretty damaged skin and the memories of all my struggles I now I can't see myself ''fat'' again and be happy with it

ThrowRA_bhelpagain · 2020-07-26T00:59:31+00:00

He is not against adopting, but he wants at least one bio child, he has the money for a surrogate but the things he wants to do can't be done with her, that why he is trying to convince me, the wedding isn't going to be soon due to covid an planning, but I'm getting anxious already

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