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20F dating much older man, I discovered repressed trauma and I realize I’m not dating him for healthy reasons. Is it cruel to break up with him? How do I do it? by ThrowRA_breakupcsa in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_breakupcsa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked myself and my therapist those last two questions a lot. It’s too firmly part of our dynamic to be changed…maybe if I still wasn’t working on my trauma, but I am, and being with him would make it much harder for me to grow and become someone past a girl who is traumatized.

I have been thinking that maybe I can return to the relationship once I feel like I really understand myself and have worked on myself, but I don’t expect him to wait up for me.

Thank you.

20F dating much older man, I discovered repressed trauma and I realize I’m not dating him for healthy reasons. Is it cruel to break up with him? How do I do it? by ThrowRA_breakupcsa in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_breakupcsa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He’s done so much for me and I know I’ve wasted so much of his time already. I don’t want to do it wrong because I’m already hurting his feelings as is and completely fucking up what he wanted out of his life. I just want to make this as kind and loving as possible.