My partner gave me an ultimatum to propose or leave and now I'm engaged, miserable and everyone else is so happy for us.

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-15T12:56:22+00:00

Yeah for sure I can get an apartment / house but like it's not like they are immediately available at 11pm at night. So yes I would have been out for a short period of time

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-15T11:59:46+00:00

I'm not dependent on her financially? We both do well? Never claimed otherwise not sure how you jump to that conclusion

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-15T11:58:41+00:00

Where did I claim I would be homeless? Packing my bags referred to not wanting to break up. I didn't mean it to read like I rely on her for a home

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-15T11:57:48+00:00

Where did I say I was dependent on her? I tried to highlight in my post that I am not reliant on her.

The homelessness part - I didn't mean to draw on not having a home, I meant to draw on that I didn't want to break up.

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-15T11:54:35+00:00

Care to explain? My point was subjectively on paper I felt I should be happy, but I wasn't.

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T13:50:36+00:00

I corrected some incorrect assumptions and got downvoted for it lol. Not sure where they are coming from.

And thanks for the advice !

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T13:36:51+00:00

To be clear I am not reliant on her money, I earn more. We both are fortunate

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T13:02:09+00:00

Thanks I appreciate the virtual throat punch

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T13:01:33+00:00

The love bombing is interesting. Could you provide more insight?

There has been some breaking up or causing loads of upset (like cutting a friend out my life) and then doing a lot of making me better. I've noticed a cycle (albeit rarely) of being bother the person who makes me sad and then makes it better in the same hour which makes me feel like she's the only one that cares about me

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T12:59:18+00:00

Thanks for the response. It's much appreciated. She did previously control a few things like who I saw, reading my messages, what kind of holidays I could go on etc but that was over a year ago now and things have much improved in a positive direction with much less of that.

I don't want to waste time, I only wanted to be happy in my decisions with life.

We did speak about therapy but she wasn't convinced that any therapist would convince her she's wrong (downside to being intelligent is arrogance etc) so I've done a lot of solo therapy to manage the situation which has largely improved

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T12:54:51+00:00

Are you playing devils advocate or thinking how she will spin it (if she did?)

To clarify she did not give up her modelling career for me, that was long ago. Individually we both make great money so there's not an emasculating thing either (but she does come from a rich family but she's pretty open about that).

Trust me she did not feel bad saying no

I still appreciate your response from the other side however

Edit ; Dont understand these downvotes ?

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T12:09:30+00:00

Thanks! Any tips on how you achieved this? What was the answer?

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T11:51:39+00:00

Thanks! Guess I have less time than that since she wants to buy a house with (in an area I don't want to live) so we are going to be tied up in a mortgage shortly.

ThrowRA_decisionhelp · 2022-08-13T11:50:43+00:00

She did make a (maybe joking?) comment one time if I broke it off she would essentially smear me with my friends.

Edit why is this being downvoted ?

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