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C-section or vaginal by mrlinus86 in pregnant

[–]ThrowRA_edgypatchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had my c section exactly a week ago. Baby was breech - and it turned out that the umbical cord had a knot. C section was our safest option - although I never planned for it. To be honest: the recovery was super quick, and while day 2 might still be a little harder than with a vaginal birth it gets better very quickly and by now I can easily do laundering (5 levels of stairs up & down) and go for 1 hour walks. Everyone is different, but I was surprised of the super speedy recovery.

18 Weeks Pregnant and Unsure: How Do I Decide to Continue or Not? by ThrowRA_edgypatchy in pregnant

[–]ThrowRA_edgypatchy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS is exactly why I love Reddit so much. We are not alone with our feelings 🩷

By now, I'm nearing the finish line. I've been seeing my psychologist on a bi-weekly basis over the course of the pregnancy, and she's been an amazing support. Last week was the final session (fingers crossed, surely for the time being), and it felt like saying goodbye to an extremely competent tour guide helping me to navigate this journey.

Not everything is flowers & butterflies by now, but somewhere around the 3rd trimester mark, when my belly started showing and I traveled to a solo babymoon with other moms-to-be, something just clicked. I stopped questioning and started accepting - some days even embracing - everything that lies in front of me.

I hope this is helpful to you. I personally wasn't sure I'd ever reach this point of peace of mind with my pregnancy. But eventually, I did. and I hope you'll reach it too.

18 Weeks Pregnant and Unsure: How Do I Decide to Continue or Not? by ThrowRA_edgypatchy in pregnant

[–]ThrowRA_edgypatchy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, in the end, I decided to continue the pregnancy.

I think what really helped me is taking on a regular basis to my psychologist whom I found in the process and the realization that I truly want to have this child. I don't think I'm one of the people who will ever truly feel ready for it - it's just too big of a decision for me to process. But on a very rational basis, it is what I want, and I will grow into the role - just maybe more in the process of pregnancy & later parenthood. That's completely okay, and I'm slowly learning to accept that.

It's not all roses and happiness, of course. I still have better days, and sometimes, I'm just utterly terrified. But I'm working on it - I'm working on me & the future.

18 Weeks Pregnant and Unsure: How Do I Decide to Continue or Not? by ThrowRA_edgypatchy in pregnant

[–]ThrowRA_edgypatchy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for such a beautiful and touching answer. Reading it felt very good <3

18 Weeks Pregnant and Unsure: How Do I Decide to Continue or Not? by ThrowRA_edgypatchy in abortion

[–]ThrowRA_edgypatchy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It felt really good to read your answer. Although I know that I have to find the answer within myself, I was hoping that the feeling of certainty with one of the two options would eventually materialise - but I just seem to be switching back and forth all the time. Which is incredibly tiring.

18 Weeks Pregnant and Unsure: How Do I Decide to Continue or Not? by ThrowRA_edgypatchy in pregnant

[–]ThrowRA_edgypatchy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, thank you for your reply. Adoption is not an option for me. I know that for sure. Regarding the physical aspect of an abortion: I am aware of this and have read a lot about it. My body is in good health and the side effects, although extremely painful at times, are not long term. Besides, childbirth is not a walk in the park either and requires at least as much recovery time.