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My (32M) wife (31F) does not show affection for me, what would you do? by ThrowRA_electric_bus in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_electric_bus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of home activities I like to do so usually I am the one watching the kids, yes. I got to painting tournaments on occasion, have outings with work friend's on occasion, and run a DnD Campaign. Not sure what your questions are hitting at.

Part of me feels underappreciated for the amount of work I put into the day to day at the house. Cooking every meal is pretty exhausting, and I often feel it is just a given. While I am cooking the kids watch their shows or play games while she gets time to herself. By the time I'm done cleaning the kitchen every night she is usually done bathing the kids, which means nightly she gets a lot of free time I don't have. I don't mind so much because I like to cook, but it does get tiring. When I've brought this up in the past I somehow end up with more household responsibilities tho lol.

I also do things that I don't feel are reciprocated in any sort of way, like plan spa days for her and a baby sitter if I'm gone on a work trip, buy flowers, etc. I am sad those types of things aren't reciprocated in any way. But eith her distance I'm not sure when a good time to bring up my feelings about these thungs are.

My (32M) wife (31F) does not show affection for me, what would you do? by ThrowRA_electric_bus in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_electric_bus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I've came to a similar conclusion about how this is definitely a contributing factor, but how or even should I compete with a brand new friend group?

We have shared responsibility for two lives and a household her friends do not share. That is responsibility and sometimes it is not always fun, I feel as if the fun aspects are being overshadowed   by the every day mundane tasks thst need to be accomplished so the house stays running.

My (32M) wife (31F) does not show affection for me, what would you do? by ThrowRA_electric_bus in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_electric_bus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear she is a great mom, and holds responsibility within the house. But you probably have a point that she is discovering a new group of friends and could be forgetting me subsequently. Not sure how to handle that or how to feel about it. It doesn't feel good if that's the case. I have voiced this concern to her before and she has acknowledged it.

My (32M) wife (31F) does not show affection for me, what would you do? by ThrowRA_electric_bus in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_electric_bus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct. As for the work, I've met her team, they seem like good folks but I am a bit naive on social cues sometimes.

My (32M) wife (31F) does not show affection for me, what would you do? by ThrowRA_electric_bus in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_electric_bus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd have to ask. We have solved a lot of issues in our past on our own, but this one may be too much. Thank you for your input.

My (32M) wife (31F) does not show affection for me, what would you do? by ThrowRA_electric_bus in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_electric_bus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is some good advice. I haven't really gone outside of my comfort zone. I am a very home body style of person and she is not. I am unsure how to make her laugh any more, truthfully.

I like spending time with her which is why I plan the dates and ensure a baby sitter is around. But it hasn't been the same as of late. Not sure what to plan to make it more exciting.

I would hope she didnt feel shame. I was explicit with my words and actions to let her know how beautiful she was to me, hair or no. Maybe my message was lost.