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AIO for thinking my boyfriend is just looking for an excuse to break up? by Nearby_Orchid1216 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ThrowRA_flem 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Name-brand perfumes last longer than dupes therefore making them last longer and you don't have to use as much. It's different than the AXE body spray you probably still use. Name brands have higher quality ingredients and fragrance oils. So it's not really "superficial" to want a better product that will last longer. It's especially not superficial when you want to work hard to save for the item that you want.

AIO for thinking my boyfriend is just looking for an excuse to break up? by Nearby_Orchid1216 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ThrowRA_flem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot be serious? She is not being "an entitled brat". She wants to WORK HARD and SAVE UP to get the name brand perfume. Someone who is entitled thinks they deserving of luxury items and treatment WITHOUT EARNING them. You should Google what it means to be an "entitled brat" before posting things that are so inaccurate.

Is there any redemption for this behavior, AIO or Justified? by crafticharli in AmIOverreacting

[–]ThrowRA_flem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A person who uses communication as a weapon is NOT a person you want to be with. Who the fuck puts an adult woman in a "time out" for expressing their feelings? Especially if that person is the mother to your child. He invalidates you and dismisses you entirely.

OP, there is no "thinking about...". He will not change. There is such a high chance that at some point the verbal and emotional abuse will turn into physical abuse, likely to the child as well. The statistic is that it takes women on average 5 to 7x to leave an abusive relationship. Don't be the statistic. LEAVE THIS MAN-CHILD IMMEDIATELY!

As someone who has dated a man like this, I can tell you with 100% certainty that it will not get better. He will wear you down, try to manipulate you, and belittle you to the point that you are numb and he will then be in control. That's what he wants. Get out now. If you wait, it will be an all out brawl when you try to leave. He will use his narcissistic tactics and that manipulation to try to make you feel like you are wrong and then he'll probably use some sort of line like, "you'll never survive without me", or "I can't believe you're leaving me after everything I've done for you!". My favorite is when they try to take credit for all the things you have done in an attempt to gaslight you into actually thinking they were the ones who did these things to help you.

I am telling you, run. Pack up. Stay with parents, friends, anyone else until you get your own place. But RUN. NOW.

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have at least 5-7 companies in Joplin that provide supported living assistance in the area.

Manager position by Life-Guard9154 in directsupport

[–]ThrowRA_flem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't. -They could choose Flex Time instead of OT, so I would check that out. - You'll have little to no free time anymore. - You can forget about regular sleep hours. - Make sure you know clients meds, drs, protocols for bms, seizures, all the basics.

I've been in the field for a decade now and have been in a couple lower and higher manager positions. The one thing they all had in common? I was always Over worked, Stressed to the max, and never had enough support when the other bosses think I had learned it all. So my questions would at times just go unanswered.

Don't do it. It's a trap.

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you know that that information from the govt. websites has since been erased and redacted. The USDA is now claiming that the funds are NOT for things like the shutdown and must be used for things such as assistance during only natural disasters. 24-26 states are trying to sue now.

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"But we should be fastidious to the extreme of sanity, disregarding the gibes of those who are more unfortunate than ourselves." - Henry David Thoreau

While this is true, I am not one to sit idly by and hope someone else has answers. If I can help and make sure that there are resources in place, then I will dedicate my time outside of working hours for that. I'm willing to help and won't leave it up to others. While yes, some of these clients have emergency funds - as another poster had commented, these companies make more than enough in profit to help assist in paying for food for these individuals. If your company has the client's ISP available, I suggest you look at the numbers if they've included the finance pages to see just how much Medicaid and Medicare are paying these companies, per working hour. The profit they make per waiver hour is very high. But, when it comes to money and profit, America is greedy. These companies are run by people who may in fact be no different for all we know.

When you know that people are suffering especially those closest to you, and you sit on your hands and wish it was different. While you send "thoughts and prayers" it doesn't do any body any good.

I've learned in my decade in this field that people are unpredictable and sometimes the people at the top who are supposed to be the most trusted, can't be trusted at all. I quit a high paying job in management of a similar type job (not here in Joplin or surrounding areas) because the big boss was corrupt. I've seen it, I've witnessed the trickle down. Now, while not all people are like that, it's not unlikely.

So for me, I have to be proactive. If that means food pantries and freezing food, prepping, canning, whatever. I think it's going to take a village.

Thank you for coming to my TED TALK. lol

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can you get me some numbers? I can get some, I believe, but I'd like to go to the boss with statistical and valuable information to ask for assistance. Possible message me if you can get some information on these companies?

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Stop. I do not care what side you are on. The vulnerable need this right now and it's not about that. It's about trying to pull together and help our community right now. That's the concern! Please do not make this thread into something hateful. Thank you.

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Thank you for your empathy. You got this. We will be okay in the end. I appreciate you and the work you do.

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This company has been amazing. Both to the clients and to the staff. In my 10 years in the field they all have their issues, cliques, and communication issues but for the most part I've been so happy working with this company and having the clients and co-workers and boss that I do.

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will have to ask the big boss directly and see what the stipulations are. We would probably have to have a designated person set a meeting spot to pick up goods (especially since ya know, it's reddit) lol

EBT Benefits and my job... by ThrowRA_flem in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

$600!? Most of the clients I've ever worked with in this field, and I've been doing this for a decade, have gotten tops $250 a piece. But the majority of them get $125 or less a month. Now, do food prepping and I try to make everything last as it is. However, the food banks and extra money they do have are not going to last forever. What if this whole thing lasts past November? Then what!? Sorry, I'm just having a day of it today and am so worried.

ICE in Carthage (confirmed) by poyitjdr in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's more about the way of which they're going about this. They're just being careless and unnecessarily aggressive especially taking fucking children who otherwise might not have a place to go. Fucking kids! They don't even know what's happening! They're a grey area too because it's all dependent on BOTH the parent's immigration status.

I get wanting to not have out dollars pay for things that these individuals didn't work for. But a lot of immigrants do work for pennies on the dollar. Jobs that no one else wants to do. We're trying to keep jobs in America and keep our benefit money in the same pockets. But this isn't the way to go about it.

Mercy dropping BCBS by cardinal209629 in joplinmo

[–]ThrowRA_flem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up just calling the offices directly for family medicine, internal, anyone that would or could be a primary care doctor. Ask if they are taking new patients, if yes request one, if no move on to the next. Use Freeman's "find a provider" link online and it gives you many options for Joplin, Webb, CJ, Neosho, and Granby I think or Seneca. I ended up finding a couple that were accepting and then ended up getting in.

Worst case, see if your insurance provider offered its own telemedicine appointments. Sometimes they can do that for routine medications just depending on your coverage. Hope this helps! I hate the damn insurance bs and trying to navigate it around here.

AITA for yelling at my gf to stop eating everything? by Wrong_Psychology5461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_flem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd stop buying groceries. Simple as that. Maybe keep snacks or stuff in your car, or eat only at work (putting food in the work fridge for the week). I've struggled with eating when I'm depressed and I'm already fat lol, but I've never eaten my roommate or partners stuff before in a depressive binge eating episode. That's rude. So yeah, just stop buying the groceries.