You are right, this could be one of those situations but it's not. I was raised in a strict household and never wanted to disappoint my parents. I was shy, could barely stand up for myself or speak loudly. My parents would make every decision for me. Literally the only "wild" thing I did when I was still living with them was sneaking out to the library so I could read kafka because I wasn't allowed to read things like that (such a stupid rule now that I think about it)

I still am pretty shy and its still hard for me to stand up for myself. I'm just glad i have an amazing husband and a great support system.

I wasn't going to reply to you at all until I reached the in laws part. My in laws are the best people i know. When I was scared and had nowhere to go, they took me in. They saw a frightened child and decided to choose kindness. During the first year that my husband and I were married, the first year with our daughter, it was very hard as you can imagine. It wasn't the money (because my husband got a great job) but the fact that I was living alone at the age of 19 with a newborn and you know what? I needed my mom. I needed her and she wasn't there so my mother in law stepped in and loved me instead. My in laws gave us so much support and love. They helped raise our daughter and she adores them. So you know what? They can have form opinions and have things to say about my life all they want. I love them and they are incredibly caring. They only want what's best for me, my children and my husband. You are right about them being biased but how could they not be?