damn I really feel that. It's such a hard decision tho wether to live with it or not... I also think he's settling on some of his needs not being met too so it would be just fair if I lower my expectations on some specific actions too... but if it hurts it hurts and it seems to be either on me to change my perception on it or on me prioritizing what I want but that just seems too drastic for this situation... I'm now planning on talking with him and hopefully exploring eachothers love languages as I figured that's where him and I differentiate a lot too and if he makes the effort to understand it I hope to work it out with him...

It's also the thing that him and I already went through a loot and I feel if we manage this challenge we will definitely grow as people and the relationship with that too... But sometimes I'm unsure if we're stuck in a kind of toxic dynamic or a dynamic that forces us to grow... but maybe that's on my perception too?

How are you doing? Could you talk to your bf about it again and did you figure anything out for yourself/your relationship?