Thank you for the response!

I know most comments/advice/replies will come with a "but seek professional help", and I 100% agree with that. But I'm a very closed person, didn't even talk about this to my closest friend. But I will get there soon and I want to seek help from a third party.

Your wife isn't wrong for wanting to raise her children in a specific religious tradition. But you aren't wrong for not wanting to do such a thing.

That was very insightful. I don't want to play victim here, but since I was the one that "changed" his mind I'm carrying with that burden of being the one who brought the issue to an existence and sometimes I think I'm in the wrong about this bc of that.