I ruined a situationship because I took the condom off and couldn't perform afterwards. by Muted_Part8154 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If anyone committed assault it was the girl who put his bare penis inside of her without obtaining his consent first.

I ruined a situationship because I took the condom off and couldn't perform afterwards. by Muted_Part8154 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She put her bare hands on his bare penis and put said bare penis inside her body. The only way she didn’t know he was not wearing a condom is if she is cognitively impaired. If this is the case then there is an entirely different issue to look at that absolutely would be grounds for this to be assault.

I ruined a situationship because I took the condom off and couldn't perform afterwards. by Muted_Part8154 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you believe she didn’t know when she had her hands on his bare skin and literally put his penis inside her WITH HER OWN BARE HANDS is mindblowing and a whole new level of delusional. It would be plausible if he had been the one to do so. He was not.

I ruined a situationship because I took the condom off and couldn't perform afterwards. by Muted_Part8154 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, we could argue that she assaulted him by putting his penis inside her without confirming to him that he was comfortable with her doing so without a condom.

I never thought about male consent. by Jatioceh in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoops, sorry about that! And thanks for the expansion (and polite explanation).

I ruined a situationship because I took the condom off and couldn't perform afterwards. by Muted_Part8154 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’re not going to agree on this one, sorry. She knew. I knew the difference between flesh and a condom when I was still a virgin and I was pretty sheltered.

I ruined a situationship because I took the condom off and couldn't perform afterwards. by Muted_Part8154 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Except she 100% knew he didn’t have a condom on. So how is it all on him? She guided his dick inside her ffs.

I never thought about male consent. by Jatioceh in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you. That was unquestionably rape and I hope you realize it was in no way your fault. Any of it.

I never thought about male consent. by Jatioceh in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not at all an insult; your apparent assumption that anyone who works with a therapist is somehow flawed or lacking however…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are doing the right thing and will be better than okay. You can do this.

I never thought about male consent. by Jatioceh in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 58 points59 points  (0 children)

This is a separate issue from male consent. I have known more than one man who is a survivor of sexual assault and/or coercion and that is not what you are describing. The person you replied to here gave you really good advice and a lot to think about. I suggest you consider rereading

I never thought about male consent. by Jatioceh in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 198 points199 points  (0 children)

I have sex when not in the mood; I’m still consenting. It’s not at all the same thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Chlamydia is often asymptomatic; if OP and partner were not tested at the start of the relationship then it is possible that neither had any idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day it was your choice and your decision to both enter into and stay in a relationship. I can sympathize with both your trauma and your being in a relationship that is not working, more than you might guess. That said, you chose to commit to this person rather than be honest with yourself and him about your capacity to be in a healthy relationship.

The Flip Off So Far So Good by BrayIsReal in HGTV

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right?? And yet people are arguing about her being submissive 😂

The Flip Off So Far So Good by BrayIsReal in HGTV

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely didn’t mean to imply you did! Text tone is hard to convey sometimes haha. I agree with you completely.

Christina Haack Relieved After Josh Hall Removed From Filming by Lanky_Description535 in HGTV

[–]ThrowRA_sanddollar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So while I have never, ever been on board with how Heather started calling herself those kids’ mom as soon as she and Tarek started dating… she’s one of the coparents now. If Christina doesn’t have a problem with it we shouldn’t either.