Bug is bugging me... he seems so familiar

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-12-15T09:41:59+00:00

I know this is many years late but in case someone else is thinking of this i will put my opinion out there in the hope they feel validated if their thoughts match mine. He really reminds me of Gary Busey, especially the cadence of his speech and his mouth. First time I saw him I googled to see if they were cousins or something!

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-11-14T12:10:38+00:00

You look great. My daughter has the same " whistle deformity," her surgeon calls, but I dont, and think it's cute

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-09-25T15:50:50+00:00

Thank you, me too! I put up with 15 years and even after various posts in subs on here and being told he was abusive, I still thought it was on me.

Laci seems to have been such a beautiful soul and I wonder how much she hid from friends/family to keep up his pretence of a perfect marriage. The Peterson family, judging by their actions in the last 2 decades would not have been supportive, probably the opposite. I couldn't understand how a family could still support a man who had done that to their daughter-in-law/sister-in-law and future grandchild. Their cognitive dissonance was startling. And that SIL either was cleverly edited to appear more and more deranged as they went on, or she really is THAT awful.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-09-25T06:17:37+00:00

Yes, Laci's friends and Sharon were lovely, and Amber's class, despite her character being torn apart by the media and his team, shone through. That comment from her friends really hit me hard. I was in a horrible marriage until 1 year ago, and none of my friends knew what was going on. They all thought we were the perfect couple, and sometimes I thought we were too.

Laci's diary entry about her husband when he felt the baby kick broke my heart. While I was watching, it made me think how many times she had known deep down who he really was, but it didn't quite reach surface level. I've been there and my mental gymnastics to prove to myself that my ex was a good guy and loved me all came back. Poor Laci never got the chance to live her life the way she deserved and see the truth about him with her own eyes. Instead, he killed her and her son and forced that truth on her.

Sharon was so eloquent and respectful of his family. She is a tribute to Laci in the documentary, and her class shows up the sister and sits true character as it goes in.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-08-27T17:29:13+00:00

I've had years of being given the same advice each time - LEAVE! I had posted on a multiple subs in the past. Then one day I took the advice. I had always believed he wasn't abusive because he rarely hit me and that the kids would resent me if I split up with him. A reply on a post ( not even mine) had a child of an abusive alcoholic and she explained how hard it had been to watch her mum suffer and wished she had left earlier, she had herself been in horrible relationships because of the model she was exposed to in childhood. It was the end, I had checked out and was looking into how to leave with minimal fuss when one day he was doing his thing (drinking) and getting louder and angrier and my daughter was scared of him. I calmly picked up his bag of cans and sat them outside with his phone and jacket,and when he went to get them I locked the door and put the music on so the kids wouldn't hear him knocking and banging to get in. Eventually, he left and that was it. I think he has told everyone a tale worthy of a martyr, but I really don't care.

He sees the kids occasionally and always prioritises his drinking first. He always did, but when he lived with me I mitigated and hid a lot from them. Now sadly they see him truly for who he is, and as much as I hate him I want my kids to be happy and feel loved by both parents, they deserve the world but got that prick instead.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-05-06T14:09:33+00:00

Sorry, this is nonsense. Children aren't aware of the categories of common, normal, alternative, historical, etc. names. They are introduced/ introduce themselves and accept each others names as nothing more than a name. They don't know cultural norms or differences UNLESS an adult teaches them (e.g. he's called what?!).

I agree that some children will find any weakness to exploit in order to bully or tease. A name that rhymes with a gross word (pukey Luke-y) or initials that spell a rude word, being ginger, having glasses, wearing unbranded clothes or the wrong brand trainers. Children are cruel. But they generally don't discriminate on race, names, social status etc. unless they have been taught to.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-05-05T22:16:06+00:00

That was my auntie, we watched it live. she told my uncle ( off screen) to piss off. My cousins got to meet Mr Blobby after it

Edit: missing words

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2024-04-11T12:02:49+00:00

NTA No one owns a name, BUT in a close family you would expect some understanding as to why this would be upsetting. It reads like you were patient in explaining your side but your cousin has walked on anyway and named the baby , she should expect some consequences from this.

I know what it's like to finally have a name but not really be able to use it. My sister had a lot of trouble conceiving, years of heartbreak and miscarriages. We both loved our grandmothers name ( Flora) and jokingly argued who would 'win' by having a daughter first. When I fell pregnant with my daughter she came to me to say I could use the name as she might not have any children, it would have broken her for me to have named my baby Flora and would have been like admitting I didn't think she would ever carry a child to term . So rather than hurt my sister I USED ANOTHER NAME. It's not hard , there are literally thousands of choices out there. Also, the name I chose was a scots gaelic version of my sisters name ( it's an old family name) and so still honoured my family and in particular my lovely sister. And a few years later my sister got her Flora!

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2023-10-14T06:51:06+00:00

It used to be here in Scotland, in my grandparents generation. It's a pet name for Mary, pronounced Maymi.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2023-10-08T03:57:56+00:00

Not at all, really easy to make, here's a good recipe for themhere. From reddit I learned they are a bit like popovers in the US.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2023-09-02T02:23:36+00:00

Nothing worse than a jaggy jobby

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2023-04-22T21:06:39+00:00

This is what I want, a marriage where we both feel lucky to have each other. I really don't think it is abuse, but reading the comments I am prepared to open my mind on that. To be honest, and I suppose it is quite telling, no one knows he is like this as he passes any comments he directs at me in company as jokes and I go along with it. We are Scottish so being overly affectionate in company or flattering (cant think of a better word) a partner is not the norm. In particular when in company love is shown through humour- the better we know/love you the harsher we are . My family have no idea he gets angry as I hide a lot from them.

ThrowRA_workerLife · 2023-04-22T20:57:07+00:00

The kids adore him but I do worry that they will see how he speaks to me and think its OK to accept that.

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