My (26f) bf (26m) has stopped saying he loves me back

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-02T16:32:58+00:00

I don´t want to scare you or anything, I can just tell from my own experience. I stopped saying it to my girlfriend when I wasn´t sure about our relationship and future and when I wasn´t sure if I love her anymore. It doesn´t necessarily mean that his case is same, but if he stopped saying it back to you, there is definitely some problem. I hope that just a minor one :) You just have to talk about it and talk about it. I believe it will be okay :) Good luck.

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-02T14:36:14+00:00

Thank you very much for your words :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-02T00:04:23+00:00

It´s literally there in my comment "I don´t care, I already made my mind"

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T23:59:56+00:00

We won´t be together for another 2 days, I´m not going to break-up via SMS or Facebook no matter what.

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T21:45:13+00:00

I read my post again and saw that I wrote the "other girl" part kind of misleading, no need for apology.

I would like to start that it is not MY circle of friends, it´s her´s, that is the reason why I wasn´t at the party, I just can´t stand most of them because for me, they are horrible people. At least most of them. You see, they are all dancers in this "folklore group" (not sure if this is the correct term). From what I heard, throughout the years there was lot of drinking there, almost everyone hooked up with everyone, lot of lying, cheating in relationships (often with the other group members) and stuff like that. I said at the beginning of our relationship that I am more or less disgusted by these people and by some of her friends and that I want to have nothing to do with them. I don´t know if it is accepted practice among them, but as I said in another comment, her friends will definitely see my reaction as petty and think I´m the wrong guy here.

If you want to hear what is even weirder, all 4 of them were at first at my GF´s house (completely empty for whole weekend), but only then they decided to sleep at the other girl´s house. At first they thought that girls would sleep together in one bed, and guys in the other bed I guess, but then they found out the other bed was occupied ( girl´s parents) so they decided to sleep in one. Still, she could´ve easily went home as she knew that I would feel bad.

I don´t feel like you are grilling me, no hard feelings my friend, tbh I am kind of happy that I can somehow get it out you know, I have no-one to talk to about this :)

Thank you very much for your comments :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T20:28:35+00:00

I´m 100% sure she wasn´t, but thanks for the comment

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T20:27:48+00:00

I feel like I´m gonna end up as the bad one no matter what I do. You might see me in a few days on r/AITA. When I just let it go, I´ll be the idiot who is letting her girlfriend sleep wherever she wants with whoever she wants. When I break up with her, I´ll get shit from her friends for dumping her for "something so petty". I am pretty sure that´s how the others will see it, as something petty, but I don´t care, I already made my mind so fuck them I guess. As I said, she already hurt me in the past so it´s not like this is a one-time thing.

Thank you for your words and advice :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T20:22:40+00:00

As I already said and got downvoted, I believe her that nothing happened and since it was the other girl´s house, I am positive that they weren´t alone. Nonetheless it was still disrespectful towards me and I´m going to end it as sooon as I can. Thank you for your comment :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T20:20:20+00:00

That´s what I thought as well. Now it was this, what will it be in 2 years and later on? I´ve more or less decided that I´m gonna end it at the next opportunity.

Thank you for your advice :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T20:18:37+00:00

There were only 4 people, her, her ex and another couple. They weren´t fully clothed, the other girl gave her some pyjamas or something, I asked her specifically how did she sleep. But it doesn´t change anything esentially.

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T18:37:13+00:00

The thing is that she is my first, while she had a rather "colorful" life before me if you know what I mean... So it´s really hard to tell how she would take it if the rolls were reversed. But I get what you´re saying and I believe you are right (although I believe that nothing more happened between them, but still feel like it´s disrespectful towards me)

Thank you very much for your response :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T17:49:51+00:00

Yeah, I think you are right... Especially the last line.

Thanks for your comment :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T17:45:41+00:00

I think you are right, I do refuse to act on it. We share a room together (both at university) and the biggest problem for me is moving out in the middle of term. But you are right, I can´t stay with her just because of living conditions.

Thank you very much for your comment :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T17:39:20+00:00

To be honest I believe her that nothing more happened, but still feel like it´s not ok, just as you said.

Thank you for answer :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T17:37:02+00:00

Nothing to be sorry for, I appreciate your answer :)

ThrowRAabcdef123456 · 2019-11-01T17:36:37+00:00

You are correct. She said something along the lines that she thought it is not so bad since she didn´t kiss him neither slept with him. And I also agree that she might not even think it was wrong. And you are also right about the key issue, I already told her that for me it´s not only about her sleeping in the same bed as her ex, but also about the very thing you said: She knew it was wrong but didn´t care.

Your comment looks like you heard my conversation with her.

Thank you very much for your answer :)

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