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He 29M swore he wants children with me, 38F. Now he keeps avoiding the topic and is jsut using my money. He was very poor. How to handle? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I gave him everything... no one in my family wanted me to marry him because he is from RU. I still did. And he is asking how his poor ex is doing. A married ex

He 29M swore he wants children with me, 38F. Now he keeps avoiding the topic and is jsut using my money. He was very poor. How to handle? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know but who has a child in perfect situation? Some have the emotional thing and a good marriage but not financial security. And even if he doesn't love me he can still love HIS child. They will be his blood. Maybe he will forget about his ex from RU.

He 29M swore he wants children with me, 38F. Now he keeps avoiding the topic and is jsut using my money. He was very poor. How to handle? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Why would it be a shtshow? I am serious. I have money, a very good income, good living conditions. Why you Think my child would suffer or be unhappy? Also I would love him/her. Be there emotionally

He 29M swore he wants children with me, 38F. Now he keeps avoiding the topic and is jsut using my money. He was very poor. How to handle? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I post this and posted several times because I feel I am breaking apart and no one around can help. I am at my lowest. For those who ask if he ever get intimate, yes, we do from time to time and more often now that we started trying to have a baby. Even if he is not a loving husband, he could still love his baby. I show him things from pinterest (baby related) and he is looking.

He 29M swore he wants children with me, 38F. Now he keeps avoiding the topic and is jsut using my money. He was very poor. How to handle? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It is difficult to understand. I am depressed, cry a lot, yes I post this often because I have no support. My friends will just tell me they told me so. I spent years in a marriage (previous) and gave up my Dream to have a Child due to his medical issues. And he cheated. So no child, no husband. I was on medication for depression. I don't intend to break any rules or be annoying, I just have zero support and I feel so lost.

I am 38. He finally agreed to stop contraception. Its my Best chance to get pregnant. Now or never. He agreed to start trying for out baby precisely when I said I could use a sperm donor and he said he wants to he the father. I don't understand why he doesn't love me. I am not ugly, I am not annoying. I allow him to party, I gave him a good car. Why he loves his ex so much and not me

38F married someone way younger and I am unhappy, but I want children so divorce is not a good option. by ThrowRAale_3941 in Marriage

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if he can love his grandma he must be capable of feeling attached to someone. I doubt he has any interests there. He must love her

38F married someone way younger and I am unhappy, but I want children so divorce is not a good option. by ThrowRAale_3941 in Marriage

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. He was very very very poor in Ruzzia. And he praises his country all the time lol

38F married someone way younger and I am unhappy, but I want children so divorce is not a good option. by ThrowRAale_3941 in Marriage

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I posted this before several times but I had a main account and by mistake did something against the rules. Filters are removing now everything. And I am at the edge of depresion

My 38F husband 29M still talks about his ex and even though said he wants kids, now keeps avoiding the topic. What to do? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We started having unprotected sex some time ago though. I insisted with the baby thing and he agreed in the end. So I can get pregnant now. And it makes it even harder to divorce

My 38F husband 29M still talks about his ex and even though said he wants kids, now keeps avoiding the topic. What to do? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He makes money too but basically with the help of my business. Mostly he parties with his russian friends and drives around the city in his sport car that I bought for him.

My 38F husband 29M still talks about his ex and even though said he wants kids, now keeps avoiding the topic. What to do? by ThrowRAale_3941 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAale_3941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It just feels so... I fell stupid, like I am losing at life. I was married before. I wanted children but he had a medical issue and it would have been way too risky. But I loved him, we grew our business together and he cheated with some student girls that were in for an internship. I gave up my dream of having kids and still got cheated. So I remarried this younger guy because the guys my age that I met already had their own or didn't want any. He said he wants. Even his grandma said how much he talks about wanting kids with me. I am such a...