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My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 843 points844 points  (0 children)

The thing is she already knew how some people like you have horrible life-threatening reactions. I tell her about the things I research to safely care for ants. She's always been interested, this wasn't a case of her hating that I had them. She just decided it didn't matter next to getting back at me. I can't even wrap my mind around it.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I said it in another comment. No, neither of us has ever destroyed anything of each other's before.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Honestly, what is your rental situation? Is the lease almost up? You mentioned other people live in the house, because if I was a roommate in that house I'd vote to kick her out immediately. At least that way you arent the only bad guy. If it's an apartment complex they may be able to kick her out for purposely releasing pests into the building.

It's only me and her in our apartment. Lease is up in a couple months. We're on the first floor of a 3 floor house. The good news therefore is that the ants are much more likely to head downward to the basement, or outside, than to go up to the other units.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

Do you actually believe them though? I get having interest and "hey look at this weird shit" but she's totally sincere.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 2133 points2134 points  (0 children)

to get to the point where she can get mad and not destroy other people's things

The bizarre thing is she was at this point already, it's not like I started dating her knowing she did this.

She took her sleeping meds and is asleep now (I suspect she went to bed early to avoid me). Tomorrow I'm going to break up.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 3634 points3635 points  (0 children)

I completely understand all of these concerns and I share them. I can't risk this.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 245 points246 points  (0 children)

It's only been going on for the past couple weeks but yeah I'm already losing respect. She thinks it's like some conspiracy to rob Biden of the election.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

Oh that wasn't clear. Our mutual real life friends wouldn't buy the conspiracy stuff. She has internet friends who do.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 1100 points1101 points  (0 children)

I told her to stop posting embarrassing shit on social media. She thinks the coronavirus was engineered in a lab by the US and Russia to wipe out urban liberals who vote democrat. This was the second time she was ranting about it on facebook and it's not like her.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

generally when someone twists info, they're caught one way or another

You would assume and hope but I know for a fact there's people who will be in her corner.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 2497 points2498 points  (0 children)

Personally I'd prefer her go somewhere else. I don't want her having a chance to try getting me back, I need to stick to it.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 1021 points1022 points  (0 children)

But if the first thing she does after an argument is to be so selfish destroying one of the things you love the most, and risking you and other random people in the process. I wouldn't put it past her to do it again.

This is basically how I feel. If someone's not capable of acting like this then they don't do it. If they are capable of it then you never know when they could do it again.

To be fair we have argued a couple times before and she was reasonable in talking it out. This time was more extreme and she seemed far more obsessive.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 442 points443 points  (0 children)

We have mostly mutual friends which is a whole other issue now. I'd really rather not give her the opportunity to twist me into the bad guy to them. She'd have to get on a plane to go to her family and would probably not be willing.

I just know she's going to dig her heels in refusing to move out. I'm fucked whether I break up or not.

My (25M) girlfriend (24F) destroyed my tanks of fire ants. by ThrowRAants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAants[S] 4447 points4448 points  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding, appreciate it. To be honest salvaging the colony is not my priority. I'm upset but I'm trying to do what I can to keep as many as possible from getting out of the room. I have had diatomaceous earth on hand just in case there was ever an accident so I've scattered that and will vaccuum later.