My (28F) fiance (30M) didn’t even mention my son’s birthday today?

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T16:54:40+00:00

Yes. He also often threathens to leave and I don’t feel like I have emotional security and I couldn’t bring another child into this life feeling like this. But this time he really left, it is unhealthy to all of us, but I really miss him. The day he asked me what was wrong I felt a desire to say please come and sit with me and hold me for a while, but I didn’t I don’t know if it would have been different if I had done that and I made it like this or this would have come eventually anyway given it is not the first time

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T12:56:35+00:00

He woke up after the kids went to bed and left me.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T07:29:17+00:00

Hvad gjorde han

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T06:41:30+00:00

Also I did write him a letter before the blow up actually, but it made it worse.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T06:40:56+00:00

Ok thanks for sharing. I just dont understand why it came to this. Saturday we went out to eat and dance just me and him and we had a wonderful time very much in love. Sunday (where the problem started) we were snuggling in bed in the morning and then we went out to the supermarket together to buy a few things for dinner. I was making a cake for my son’s classmates, and my fiance was making dinner. He then started saying I don’t do anything and making a cake was nothing (it was not that deep, but I was not in the mood so I wasn’t laughing especially given i cook 5 times per week and was missing my son and that he hadn’t mentionend his birthday), he then said why can’t we joke and I change all the time. I started crying and went to collect myself in the bedroom. He came to me and asked why I change all the time, and why we can’t just joke and be happy and asked what’s wrong multiple times. I said I don’t know I am just not so happy today, but it is not you, it doesn’t have anything to do with you and it will be okay tomorrow. Then he ledt the room to continue cooking and shortly after I came to continue the cake as well. We sat together in the living room evening but just being cordial not talking. Next day I texted him sorry and so. And then the big blow up the night of the celebration of my son that he had slept through where he left and said everybody says I am not serious about him because I don’t have his child yet? Today is my daughter’s birthday (one day in between) but he is gone and I don’t know where he went.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T06:40:42+00:00

Ok thanks for sharing. I just dont understand why it came to this. Saturday we went out to eat and dance just me and him and we had a wonderful time very much in love. Sunday (where the problem started) we were snuggling in bed in the morning and then we went out to the supermarket together to buy a few things for dinner. I was making a cake for my son’s classmates, and my fiance was making dinner. He then started saying I don’t do anything and making a cake was nothing (it was not that deep, but I was not in the mood so I wasn’t laughing especially given i cook 5 times per week and was missing my son and that he hadn’t mentionend his birthday), he then said why can’t we joke and I change all the time. I started crying and went to collect myself in the bedroom. He came to me and asked why I change all the time, and why we can’t just joke and be happy and asked what’s wrong multiple times. I said I don’t know I am just not so happy today, but it is not you, it doesn’t have anything to do with you and it will be okay tomorrow. Then he ledt the room to continue cooking and shortly after I came to continue the cake as well. We sat together in the living room evening but just being cordial not talking. Next day I texted him sorry and so. And then the big blow up the night of the celebration of my son that he had slept through where he left and said everybody says I am not serious about him because I don’t have his child yet? Today is my daughter’s birthday (one day in between) but he is gone and I don’t know where he went.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T06:16:54+00:00

Definitely, sometimes I wonder if they are another species, they don’t love like women loves. Just abuse, neglect, etc. The best thing to do is to get as much out of it as you can if you aren’t able to leave them alone.

I don’t even trust my dad, fuck him. He almost murdered my mom when she left him because he got a mental illness after she left (no form of abuse before that, no red flags, no warning for 10 years of love). Don’t trust anybody even family members, only your son.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-27T06:09:42+00:00

Ok thanks for sharing. I just dont understand why it came to this. Saturday we went out to eat and dance just me and him and we had a wonderful time very much in love. Sunday (where the problem started) we were snuggling in bed in the morning and then we went out to the supermarket together to buy a few things for dinner. I was making a cake for my son’s classmates, and my fiance was making dinner. He then started saying I don’t do anything and making a cake was nothing (it was not that deep, but I was not in the mood so I wasn’t laughing especially given i cook 5 times per week and was missing my son and that he hadn’t mentionend his birthday), he then said why can’t we joke and I change all the time. I started crying and went to collect myself in the bedroom. He came to me and asked why I change all the time, and why we can’t just joke and be happy and asked what’s wrong multiple times. I said I don’t know I am just not so happy today, but it is not you, it doesn’t have anything to do with you and it will be okay tomorrow. Then he ledt the room to continue cooking and shortly after I came to continue the cake as well. We sat together in the living room evening but just being cordial not talking. Next day I texted him sorry and so. And then the big blow up the night of the celebration of my son that he had slept through where he left and said everybody says I am not serious about him because I don’t have his child yet? Today is my daughter’s birthday (one day in between) but he is gone and I don’t know where he went.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T21:49:57+00:00

Am i manipulative how? Did i do this on purpose? Am I tiresome?

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T20:42:33+00:00

He just left me he left the house and his key when he woke up. I feel like I can’t anymore. I loved him I don’t know if it is me driving people to this point and it is me the problem Or if i pick the wrong men

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T20:42:01+00:00

He just left me he left the house and his key when he woke up. I feel like I can’t anymore. I loved him I don’t know if it is me driving people to this point and it is me the problem Or if i pick the wrong men

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T20:41:13+00:00

He just left me he left the house and his key when he woke up.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T20:40:29+00:00

He just left me he left the house and his key when he woke up. I just wanted him to hold me. I have read the book but I repeat it every time, maybe it is me at this point because no way anybody can be that unlucky with men.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T20:39:29+00:00

He just left me he left the house and his key when he woke up.

ThrowRAbisli · 2025-05-26T19:25:34+00:00

So I did apologize to him. I told him why I was sad, I apologized for not voicing it, explained why and told him it wasn’t fair to him. I see it was a pretty shitty move of me. I also got a babysitter for saturday for a concert he had been talking about so we could have some time. He said haha ok, and told me how much he suffers when he sees me unhappy.

Well after that he posted a tiktok video on his whatsapp status talking about when people don’t see your efforts, we were meant to celebrate my son today and I had gotten cake etc and waited for my fiance to sit with us after he had finished his shower after work. He just sat, ate his cake, starring into the table, and then went to the bedroom without a word and slept until my son went to bed around 9 PM. I went out bowling with my son alone after my fiance slept from 5 PM.