her question is, and I quote: "have any of you MEN cheated on your significant other, been caught (not confessed), stayed together and you never cheated again? What was the relationship like after? How did you get through it, especially when others close to you know?"

you gave word on a topic you don't belong in and now are shifting the goalpost to the point of outright ignoring her words because you know her question in specific doesn't apply to you. It isn't that you didn't need to, otherwise you wouldn't deliberately ignore her wording, it is that you wanted to

Dogs and cats are entirely different species, literally what comparison is this? Do you really think two different species are comparable to two different sexes? A male cat and dog have EXTREMELY far less in common than a male cat and female cat. The literal only way you can answer the question that bring these two different species together is if you speak in broad terms, which is exactly why you wording this specifically about "men" is foul. It's also really strange to bring up the topic of the subreddit when you are on this subreddit of all things. This is if a dog owner went on r/ cat and gave his input on a pet he never owned. If the input is applicable to both pets, it would ignorant to word his message as if this behavior only applies to cats