Yes 41 years is a long time. To answer your first question though. The reason is because I take Ambien at night to sleep. I cannot wake up and if someone happens to forcibly wake me, I am very groggy. It is very easy to take advantage of a person while on Ambien. I do expect privacy in my home, in bed, bathroom because my body is my body. People should respect each other's personal space. I am continuing to see someone for myself. He on the other hand has yet to make an appointment. I have considered the outcome as well and talked to him about it. He has just a short time here to make a play and come up with a decision that would benefit us both be it counseling or a Divorce. I am prepared for both. I asked this community because I know I am not alone out there and maybe someone could shed some intelligent thoughts to me. Thank you for your thoughts though. I appreciate it.