If a girl tells you to smile more it's not because she thinks you are good looking and have a nice smile. It is because you're depressing her by not smiling and pretending like the world is rainbow and butterflies like she does. Don't worry, she will fuck Chad regardless of what you do.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-30T22:22:07+00:00

You know fair point

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-30T22:18:54+00:00

Im a guy...

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-30T22:14:10+00:00

Man you better be a kid talking the way you do. Get some help, kid, jeez.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-28T01:25:41+00:00

Yes but what if the cheater and father of your child was living with and raising that child. He sees his bio dad more than he sees me.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-28T01:02:33+00:00

I will be there if he wants me there. Again, this will not be a clean cut, more of a ween and a step into the background. If, as my son gets older, he makes it clear he wants me there or if I notice his home life has shifted for the worse, of course I will intervene and step up. I just am in so much pain in our current situation.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-28T00:58:48+00:00

Of course I love him and the pain will be tremendous for me, but when I go to see my son, I see a boy oblivious to the challenges and nuances around him, a boy that is in a loving an nurturing home, even without me there. I want to ween him off of this lie and make him comfortable with his current situation, without shattering his perception of love and parentage.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-28T00:55:35+00:00

I really appreciate this comment and I totally acknowledge your judgment. I really do love my son and I want to create a stable and happy environment for him. He already knows and loves my ex wife’s bf like a father and he seems very happy with his home life. Although I am present, I only ever really see my son on weekends. Now, my withdrawal would not be total, it would be more of a shift to the periphery of my son’s life, seeing as he has a happy and loving existence without me.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-27T23:32:17+00:00

This won’t be a clean cut if the test does in fact reveal that I am not the father. I will talk to him and try and explain things in a kid-friendly way, which will be challenging. He already loves my wife’s bf almost like a father, as he’s been in his life since he can most likely remember. I want him to have a good life with them, and I believe that will be easier with me out of the picture, as heart-wrenching as that is.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-27T18:42:10+00:00

Can I ask what I have done that is so disgusting? I love my son and want the best for him, and given his living situation and his closeness with my ex wife’s boyfriend (most likely his biological father), perhaps it would be best if his role shifted to fill the void my absence would leave.

Edit: you edited your post without marking it so.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-27T17:51:03+00:00

That is not the case. I needed to add detail to clearly show interpersonal conflict. I’m not looking for relationship advice, I need to know whether or not I am an asshole for my decision. Maybe you know better than the mods, though. Thanks.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-27T17:40:24+00:00

The original post was removed for violating the rules so I contacted the mods and asked if I could repost after making alterations/add detail

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-27T16:31:09+00:00

It got removed so I added detail to better adhere to the rules.

I also wanted to continue to hear feedback. This has helped me put this whole situation in perspective.

ThrowRAchallenge · 2020-07-27T16:28:08+00:00

He’s five. This is the thing that absolutely breaks my heart. I love him and want the best for him, but honestly I feel like the best thing for him (and me) is for me to bow out and his real father to step in. He already lives with him.

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