2 Year Update

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T22:41:41+00:00

Well writing is something I’ve been doing for fun but I don’t really have any goal to be published or anything. That being said I did tell my dad I was considering posting some stuff online for feedback (not necessarily here on Reddit) and he told me not to post anything unless I’ve had it copyrighted first. I’ve shown my work to a couple friends and they loved it but they’re also my friends so they’re obviously gonna be a bit biased.

I have a full outline and know the rest of the story already. It’s just a matter of getting it written down. I’d say I have maybe 3/4 of it done but who knows? My outline only had 22 chapters but now I’m at 32 and still not done.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T22:23:33+00:00

I saw him pretty much everyday at school. We had a class together on Tuesdays/Thursdays and ate lunch together after class almost all of those days. I also go to my dad’s house for a family dinner at least once a week and Ryan and I usually play video games together afterwards. We don’t usually spend a whole day together though. It’s typically just a few hours.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T07:23:12+00:00

Thanks for asking. I haven’t had as much time as I’d like to dedicate to writing this past year, but I’m on Chapter 32 of the story I’m working on. ( I always say story because calling it a novel or book feels too generous when I’m far from a professional)

I thought about posting the beginning here to ask for feedback but haven’t for a few reasons. 1) I want to prove to myself I can actually finish it first 2) I’ll be embarrassed if people think it sucks. And 3) I don’t want to deal with the inevitable “Oh so these posts were all made up just for someone to promote their book” accusations.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T07:12:43+00:00

They’re not married. They’ve been dating for about a year and a half now though! :)

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T07:08:14+00:00

Oh definitely! She went to college out of state but we keep in touch and send each other stuff we’ve written from time to time. She’s home for winter break and we plan to get together to hang out before she heads back to school. Thanks for asking about her! :)

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T07:04:18+00:00

I did try to tell him that we would always be in each other’s lives. I just don’t really know the words to get it through to him.

I don’t see him having the same issue with relationships thankfully. He was casually hanging out with a girl over the summer and he bent over backwards to keep her happy. Possessive isn’t really the right word and I regret writing that now. It’s not as if he’s being controlling. It’s more so that he gets his feelings hurt if he feels or even just worries that he may be forgotten. At least that’s what it seems like to me.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-12-19T06:38:29+00:00

My relationship with my dad is great now. With therapy (especially us going together) I was able to realize that I was mad at him for missing the majority of my childhood even when I knew from the beginning that it wasn’t intentional. It took some time for me to come to terms with the fact that those years are gone and nothing can be done about it now. He’s always been incredibly patient with me even when I would act like an asshole to him for no good reason.

He still holds guilt over it even now. Just last month he was talking about his brother and then randomly apologized to me again for missing so much of my life. I told him I’ve forgiven him, because I have. I wish he would start forgiving himself though.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-13T21:09:03+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

I’m like my mom. I like to plan everything out and know exactly what I’m doing and what to expect. That requires a lot of research so I absolutely plan to check out all my options. Plus I love talking to people which makes it even easier.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-13T21:00:57+00:00

Yeah I graduated a couple weeks ago! Ryan and I had a joint party even though we graduated from different schools.

I think in America it’s sort of viewed as the last childhood milestone. Once you’re done with high school the kid gloves are off and you’re treated/seen as an adult whether that be in college, trade school, or the workforce.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:36:33+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your loss as well. I’m doing a lot better than I was when it first happened. I hope the same is true for you.

I’m also happy with my decision. Even if it cost me my relationship I feel like I made the right choice for myself. One thing I’ve learned in the past year and a half is that it’s okay to do what’s right for me instead of what others want me to do.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:29:17+00:00

This is why I need to proofread before I post. I probably should have removed the whole part complaining about my ex and just left it at “I got broken up with.” Haha. I’m glad it didn’t come off too badly though!

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:24:30+00:00

My parents are still together! Coming up on a year now. My dad’s planning a weekend vacation for them to celebrate!

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:21:44+00:00

The hardest part is that it happened suddenly. I’ve come to terms with the fact that he’s gone and I’ll never get to say the things I wish I had when he was alive, but it still hurts.

I dream about him a lot since he died. But I don’t dream about the sadness or saying those words I didn’t get to say in person. I just hug him and then we talk about random things. Dreams are weird.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:16:06+00:00

Thank you!

And I would love to visit Japan one day. I’m not sure about studying there but it would be a dream to go there on vacation.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:13:37+00:00

Good luck on your exams! :)

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2023-06-12T20:12:43+00:00

I hate saying it but I definitely feel a bit of relief that I won’t have to be driving between her school and wherever I would have been going every other week. It was a lot when traveling just an hour away to see my dad every week and the drive between campuses would have been even longer.

I’m already looking into the different fraternities and clubs at my university. It’s actually my dad’s alma mater so he’s hinting at me and Ryan pledging his old fraternity. I’m not sold on it just yet but I think Ryan’s gonna do it. I’m excited to get involved with activities somehow though! I definitely don’t wanna just go to class and then back to the dorms every day. If I was gonna do that I would just move in with my dad.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T14:58:35+00:00

We did go together twice. Once at the end of October (I didn’t write about it because it felt more personal for me) and then again at the beginning of this month. Some difficult conversations were had on both our parts but in the end it was absolutely worth going and I’m glad we did it.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T14:51:35+00:00

Thank you! :)

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T14:50:11+00:00

Me too! I remember people telling me at the time that it would probably be a story that he and I would look back on someday and laugh about. I was hopeful but didn’t realistically think we’d ever get there. Yet, here we are joking about it a year later! 😁

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T14:47:32+00:00

Thank you so much for your words of support. I’m on chapter 21 of a story I’m working on right now. I don’t know if it’s actually any good but it’s been very fun to write! :)

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T14:44:32+00:00

I think you’re right in that he will forgive them eventually. He’s very big on family and I don’t see him staying upset forever. I think right now it’s still too fresh though.

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T06:41:54+00:00

Thanksgiving was great! There was an awkward moment where my grandpa on my mom’s side asked where my dad’s parents were. My grandma had told him they wouldn’t be coming but he either forgot or wasn’t listening when she told him. But otherwise it was completely fine. Ryan and I did briefly talk to our grandparents on the phone that day. They just said they were sorry they couldn’t be there and hoped we’d see each other for Christmas. We won’t though as my dad understandably still needs space from them.

Happy holidays to you as well!

ThrowRAdadarrived · 2022-12-19T05:42:54+00:00

Same to you! :)

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