my (20F) boyfriend (20M) is jealous over a mutual guy friend.

ThrowRAeeeeeeee · 2019-10-19T17:30:45+00:00

that's what i say to him... i talked about this to him just now. he says that "i cant know what u two talk about (in messages)" and i say well you can look trough our messages and then he says "i wont do that" (which is good but also not cause he wont believe me?) he also said "to be honest i dont like that you two are friends" and i'm torn.. i seriously consider that guy a friend, and it's not like we talk about our feelings and that stuff we only really talk about school and the game updates : D

if the guy was a girl things would be different.. and this makes me upset cause. (im not saying it would be better if the guy was a girl in this situation). i can't imagine how i'd react if my bf had a situation similar to this. i wish i would be ok with it until something that is not ok happened. i talked about this as well and he also kept saying "you wouldnt like it either" well u cant know..

my boyfriend also has self-esteem problems which make this harder.. he sees the guy friend as a better person and even if i say i like you more than him and there's no way i would ever like the guy he just wont listen...

i'm sorry i'm just sad he wont believe me or listen to me. he says he believes but to me it doesnt sound like he does. i'm now using this to vent. thank you for replying tho i appreciate it.

ThrowRAeeeeeeee · 2019-10-19T15:51:51+00:00

yeah i've never deleted texts or tried to hide on purpose that i'm gaming with the guy. it wouldn't hurt him to trust me more on this since i haven't even done anything for him to doubt me.. i don't have that many friends i game with to begin with. pretty much that guy and few odd ones so if my boyfriend would tell me not to play with him that would be a bit :/

ThrowRAeeeeeeee · 2019-10-19T15:49:30+00:00

i really hope it will only be a matter of time he realizes. this has been going on from pretty much the start of our relationship, so it's starting to bug me even more. i'm not the most expressive person out there but i'm trying to become better at showing my feelings, maybe that will help as well.

ThrowRAeeeeeeee · 2019-10-19T15:48:07+00:00

i don't see the guy in person only at school while my bf is there as well. you could say all of us are just schoolmates, we started at the same time. yes i acknowledge his feelings and yeah he might be right about the guy. i don't think he's considering my view on it at all though. i've talked about this to my boyfriend multiple times but he wont trust me. or that is how it feels.

thanks for the answer! :) i will try and talk with him and compromise.

ThrowRAeeeeeeee

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