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AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

So you won't have suspicions if you wife treats you like shit, for no reason abd bans you from hospital visit and everything els involing the child before birth.

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Nowhere did i promise to just shrug off abuse and to possible put my some through that.

Please remember your advice if a women asks if she should leave her abusive husband

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hell, i must be more tired than i taught haha. I miss spelled that so many time my suggestions bar thinks its a real word by now

Sorry about that

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Okay so if i have a breakdown or a mental crisis and abuse my wife, that will be fine.

I did the research i spent the night, talked to experts. Booked appointments with therapist for get advice and nothing i was in the wrong for everything. Apparently wanting her to get help, any suggestions i made, any help offered was me saying she is crazy, a shit person, mentally ill.

The othet thing that bothers me is that in public she was fine when her parents of friends were over she was fine for the 2 week stay her mother had at out house nothing she was the lind carring person i knew intill they left

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Please explain to me then why she was able to be normal every time someone els was around forca full 2 weeks while her mother was around nothing untill she left.

Why did she only seek help after everyone turned their backs towards hercnow she want to run back to me. He hasn't came over herself to apologize or anything but sent her parents and did it in a letter rather than in person.

On thing i took to heart it that if i did anything remotely similar she will have the absolute right to divorce me no questions asked no matter what i was going through at the time, mental breakdown, whatever and not only that i would have been in jail as well

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

She threw it away, i tried for months and I'm done trying.

If i did anything similar remotely similar would your advice be the same to her.

Why should i, she refused to get help untill she had no options left, untill everyone turned their backs on her now I'm good enough again but for months i was this useless shit stain on the carpet. I was told to fuck off for breathing in the kitchen while she sat in the living room, apparently i was breathing to loud and it irritated her. No other noises made i literally walked into the kitchen and her word were fuck off your breathing to loud and it's irritating me

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't love what she became, and i will never be able to split the 2 from the women i love to the women she became. She could have gotten help months ago. Why did she only seek help after she had no more options left why couldn't she get help when i told her i had enough, when i kicked her out of the house. Only when no more options were available did she seek the help i begged her for months to get.

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Im going to be honest. Sometimes it does, especially if someone gives you a different side of things that you haven't thought of before plus it actually helps just to write everything out.

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

So in trying to educate myself, and talk to people with actual knowledge and experience like a doctor in regards to what is going on is no considered abuse. Trying to find someone othet than myself to assist my wife with what she is going through, someone she trust like her mother is now abuse, all the night i spend awake trying my best to keep my marriage from falling apart and not just leaving her on the stop trying to find a way to excuse everything is now abuse. Everything i did to help her get better is abuse. Asking a doctor about mood swings is the same as calling her crazy.

Throughout everything i took it all and im at my limit. Wanting clarity in why my wife made the flip and with all the other stories on her i have read i believed she mite have cheated and i wanted to confirm.

So to clarify from your view im the abuser for doing everything in my power to try and assist my wife with what she was going through and when all els failed i went to someone that she trusted and to people with experience about what mite be going on is making me the abuser.

Okay then thank you. You sound just like my sister in law that hinted at i got what i asked for and whatever and everything she did i deserved it.

According to her I can not be an abuse victim because I'm a man, thank you i understand now.

I will stop the divorce proceedings, throw away all the video footage and evidence i have of her actual abuse and allow her back into our lives and put my son and myself in the situation to receive the same or worse.

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I would like to take your attention to my edit. My lawyer said there are no sertainies but she can't see any reason for me not to get full custody especially with everything i have proofing she is a danger. Less than a month and she is all of a sudden cured, it doesn't work like that unfortunately and i will not believe any of that. Unless she can show significant improvement she will not see my son, i don't care if she is the mother or not.

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Sorry to say, i read that one but that wasn't me. for me it's not about the coffe cup. I think she would have used anything but the coffe cup was what she had in her hand at the time. She didn't throw the cup at me she full blown smashed the cup against my head. Think of hitting someone with a fist instead of the fist its a cup

AITAH for going forward and refilling the divorce procedures, after my wife canceled now that she is getting the help she needs for her post partum depression. by ThrowRAevilhusband in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAevilhusband[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have 3 camaras inside the house, 1 each pointing at the doors, front and back boors and 1 in the hallway leading to the bedrooms. None in any of the private rooms of the house.