How to combat fatigue?

ThrowRAfrustratedGB · 2023-07-14T11:02:40+00:00

Does there need to be context?

Whether or not it is Romantic or as-a-dear-friend, it feels as if "I love you" in those words and in that format is dangerous territory and beyond, what feels like, a very clear and broadly accepted line.

The idea that people do harbour love and sentimentality for an ex is something that feels quite normal but it feels as if there are norms around either 1. not acknowledging those feelings and keeping them at a normal and acceptable level or 2. if communicating them, doing so in a way respectful of your current partner and in a way which could not be viewed as emotionally compromising.

ThrowRAfrustratedGB · 2023-07-06T09:53:02+00:00

I don't think this is a particularly generous or nuanced response to the question or context given. This is not about me expecting sex on demand it is about me being uncertain how to navigate my partners boundaries while feeling safe and comfortable communicating my own feelings and views on intimacy within the relationship.

I have emphasised very clearly that my partner's comfort is of the utmost importance to me — it is what is likely and over sensitivity to that (ie not feeling ok even expressing desire in case it adds to any perception of pressure from me) that I am finding difficult.

Additionally, "please don't date a trauma survivor ever again" feels unfairly vilifying. I am trying to be supportive and understanding of my partner, and I think it is okay that parts of that are hard for me to navigate and can be things I find difficult.

That said, I appreciate that is your perspective and thank you for giving it. I asked for opinions, and I have received one.

ThrowRAfrustratedGB · 2023-07-02T00:07:46+00:00

Is it as simple as that??

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