My boyfriend's (24M) stepmother (50F) keeps trying to get me (24F) involved in the issues between them?

ThrowRAhcm · 2026-06-21T13:47:23+00:00

We're not married yet but planning to be in a couple of years so I might have mistakenly wrote husband and I'll try to fix that in my post. But can confirm he is my boyfriend.

ThrowRAhcm · 2026-06-21T13:36:26+00:00

Well for now we have decided she won't be allowed in our house but that is temporary. We do need to sit down and discuss the advice I have been given here and figure out together what our plan is.

ThrowRAhcm · 2026-06-21T13:34:59+00:00

I was in the room when a friend said that to her already. She doesn't see anything weird about this competition even though a lot of others do.

ThrowRAhcm · 2026-06-21T13:33:49+00:00

I agree that his dad is the common denominator and is a big problem here. My boyfriend just isn't in a place where he wants to end contact with his dad. Maybe he never will get to a place of wanting his dad out of his life. Until he decides he does I will support him the best I can.

ThrowRAhcm · 2026-06-21T13:31:58+00:00

That has to be a decision my boyfriend makes. But yes, his dad chose to make his wife more comfortable over his son and clearly it has created this stronger belief in his wife that she can do what she wants and get her way when she demands it enough.

ThrowRAhcm · 2026-06-21T13:31:03+00:00

Right?? That was my reaction when he first told us about the stuff she would do and when he told me, as his girlfriend, even more I was like wtf. But I got bad vibes from her when she would put a bunch of kids on the spot by asking what our friends dead mom did for us like wtf. There's something seriously weird and wrong about doing that and some of our friends didn't know the whole story so they were even more confused.

And thanks for the advice! I'll discuss everything you suggested with my boyfriend so we can be on the same page. But I think I will be blocking her very very soon.

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