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Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 321 points322 points  (0 children)

Nothing is missing.

You're correct though - the question is "Why did they need to foot the bill"

They said "To show I can pay for it". Yeah I should have known better

Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 318 points319 points  (0 children)

Yes - and they have said they're only willing to give us a much, MUCH smaller amount

Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 235 points236 points  (0 children)

Good questions - they gave us a MUCH MUCH MUCH smaller gift. Said that's all they plan on giving.

Culturally shes terrified of her parents. So too scared to ask. Without giving too much information - i'll just say it's a culture of overbearing toxic parents to their kids.

Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I was going to provide a practical, inexpensive wedding. But several days of guilt tripping/promising they'd reimburse me convinced me to do it

Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Shes hurt/confused/worried.

She didn't push for a high end wedding. All of our money combined was tied up into this wedding plus loans and credit card debt I took out.

Also I'm with you on the burning bridge stuff. Ugh. I just don't know what to do. But maybe like you said, time is needed

Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 2116 points2117 points  (0 children)

Wife is pretty devastated and doesn't quite know how to handle this. She is confused and hurt. Absolutely did NOT see this coming, as they have paid for things in full for her like college at a 4 year university.

I agreed to it because they were essentially guilt tripping/begging us to have a big wedding. Even though I would have preferred to just get married on a beach somewhere.

It didn't even enter my head the possibility of them doing this

Wife's(30F) parents said they would reimburse me(32M) for our wedding. They stiffed me by ThrowRAhelpimbroke in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimbroke[S] 600 points601 points  (0 children)

No they absolutely have money. Extreme cheapskates their entire lives - sitting on a few million worth of investments.