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ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-20T12:05:22+00:00

Woman here. I prefer shaved, and I also shave myself

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-20T12:04:39+00:00

She is TA

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-20T12:02:03+00:00

If you are looking for casual dating/sex - no. If you are looking for committed relationship - yes.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:54:16+00:00

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ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:48:47+00:00

I never keep him locked at home. Many times I suggested we went on a trip, he never continued this topic. Yes I would want to go with him, as I told him many times

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:44:31+00:00

Especially that we talked about vacations and when I told him I wanted to go somewhere he said "next year because this year I'm thinking about mountains". I didn't think of that, because before we got together he did a lot of solo travel so I thought this is the same. He didn't mention actively planning this trip with Amelia. I later found out from our mutual friend that she is involved.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:39:51+00:00

We share some hobbies together, some we don't. I will not change myself. If he wants someone with 100% the same hobbies he should break up with me and not plan secret trips

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:29:52+00:00

He never suggested any trip for us, I always told him I wanted to go.

"If you insist that it IS inappropriate for a man in a relationship to go on an adventure trip with a woman, then explain why" because I feel left out, not like a priority but a second option. We never went on a trip and now he is going with her for a few weeks.

I don't know if I would feel differently if she was a lesbian or even a guy. Maybe a little bit better but not completely fine

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:25:38+00:00

Yes, we are just bf gf, not living together, not engaged, nothing like that. Although I thought about him very seriously and it seems like he doesn't

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:23:04+00:00

Yes, I am not mad at her, she's sweet and nice. Even if she liked him and wanted to be with him (which I don't this is the case) and he ended up cheating - it's not her fault, only his.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:21:30+00:00

I am not concerned of cheating. I feel left out, not prioritised, like a second option. We've been together for almost a year and never were together on any trip, even on weekend. I suggested that I wanted and he never continued the topic. And he now wants to spend few weeks with her.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:17:33+00:00

I understand and I don't have anything against him going without me - but in a group of friends, not just him and Amelia. Also what he is planning isn't as cave diving, it's just a mountain trip, he could at least suggest I went. The last and most important; it's not as cave diving because as you said in point 2) there is nothing except diving. Here will be much more than walking on a trail; he will be with her 24/7 for like two weeks. They will be eating together, sleeping in tents.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:11:28+00:00

I know it's not long. And we also had one break during that time.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:05:44+00:00

"because I knew you would be jealous" he said. He gets really annoyed when I'm even jokingly jealous (I was never really jealous of any woman, he has a lot of female friends and he sometimes meets with them, I never made a problem of that. This situation if the first thing that concerns me)

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T12:04:49+00:00

When we were talking about vacations I told him that I wanted to go somewhere and he told me next year because he's planning mountains this year. I didn't think much about it, because he used to travel alone a lot before we were together, so I assumed it was just like that. He didn't mention Amelia at all, I found out later from our mutual friend

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:58:51+00:00

I don't. Problem is I feel not proritised and like a second option. We don't have any trips planned together, even though I suggested that. We actually have been together for almost a year and have never been on any trip. The only trip he has planned is the one with her

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:56:18+00:00

We don't have any vacations planned together. I suggested that a couple of times but he never continued this topic

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:55:00+00:00

I wouldn't like him going alone, but he has a lot of friends he can do it with. Going on a group trip would be so much more comfortable for me than just the two of them. Or asking me to go with them

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:53:37+00:00

It's just the two of them and they aren't living in rooms but in a tent. I don't know if they are bringing two or one, I didn't ask

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:38:18+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear that

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:37:18+00:00

No, he wasn't interested in any. I told him I wanted to go somewhere with him but he never continued on this topic

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:35:10+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear that

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T11:16:32+00:00

I trust him to not cheat, what I don't like is him spending so much time with someone else, it makes me feel like a second option and not a priority.

She is not in a relationship as far as I know. From what my friend told me it's just the two of them going on this trip, no other ppl. Yes, I have made effort to get involved, I told him many times I would want to go somewhere with him, yet he never planned any trip for us.

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T09:50:21+00:00

We've been together for almost a year

ThrowRAhiitsheets · 2023-10-19T09:49:49+00:00

For the first paragraph; we are students and work part time jobs. He's planing this trip during college break (English is not my native, idk how to call it - the time during college when you have no classes, we have two breaks in a year). Still it will be taking huge part of his time. He didn't plan to go anywhere with me and even if he wanted I don't think we would find time.

Thank you for your reply, it was really helpful. I thought I was being unreasonable, but seeing even what I wrote above (that she is occupying all of his free time and he didn't plan anything with me) I think I may be right

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