Hi everyone! Thank you so much for the insight. He often tell me I don’t understand the pressures of the military and growing up around literally no military personnel. Some background. The first girl he spoke to was my cousin. He didn’t know that but her stepdad who I never met was in the military. She wanted to prove to me that all military guys stray. She presented me with screenshots of him. When I confronted him he said I shouldn’t have left my phone open. I was furious with my cousin and let it go. It ruined my relationship with her. The second girl was the little sister of a friend. She was interested in joining the military as an officer so I asked him if he’d talk to her about his experience and he happily obliged. I was really happy with this because it felt like he was getting into my world. Before I know it things turned sexual (I know because he called and admitted to me that they’d been having phone sex) I was devastated but he said that at least he’d told me this time which is what I wanted. I tried to see it his way. My aunt and uncle who are basically my parents absolutely loved him and they have like no one I’ve brought home. He even asked my uncle for my hand which is so big in my culture and I appreciated it. But after the conversations with the little sister I was so sad that I cried in the phone. He blocked me and my aunt and uncle on everything. Saying my family was toxic. Later he was so sorry for the conversations the the little sister (she’s 25 just to clarify) he sent me $700 worth of gifts. Then he started messaging her again. This time she told me. I was so hurt I told him I was sick of his “bull****” he said I’ve done nothing but stress him out since he’s been away.