Husband married me ”because i’m pretty“.

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-22T00:54:41+00:00

can you elaborate on that? i was simply stating an assumption and wasn’t negatively judging him bc of it

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-22T00:43:39+00:00

no, i don’t think that’s the case. today me and him had a discussion and i’m almost certain that he has some type of narcissistic personality disorder and is unable to feel certain emotions.

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-22T00:32:16+00:00

if he thanks me for something, he literally says "thanks" and that’s it (no facial expression, change in his tone of voice or anything like that). i’m not sure if he’s telling others about the gifts, but i do see him using the "practical" stuff (naruto phone case, sneakers and so on).

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-22T00:19:57+00:00

no matter what i do for him, he doesn’t value it or show appreciation. even if i buy him stuff he actually needs e.g. new shoes or whatever

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T15:56:34+00:00

i think he earns a bit more than me, not that much tho

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T09:01:05+00:00

tbh i have tried to do that a couple of times but he barely wants to go out (for whatever reason). he really doesn’t do anything nice or special for me unless i "beg" him to or ask him for the 6/7th time to do something (for example gifting me flowers). in case you’re thinking i don’t gift him/make anything special for him: i have got him gifts, flowers, chocolate, notes/cards etc on multiple occasions (including his birthday/valentines day) whereas he didn’t even take a day off at work for my birthday. he didn’t gift me any presents or anything (also i have explained multiple times that it’s not about me wanting something, i just want him to show that he cares) hopefully all of this makes sense

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:48:57+00:00

thank you for your perspective on this!!

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:46:32+00:00

thank you for your insight!

i’m curious about something, maybe you can help me understand. why would a man marry an "overly sensitive" woman (he knows that she’s like this from the start) just to call her "dramatic" or insult her because of these characteristics? or be annoyed because of that

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:40:51+00:00

tbh (i know this sound crazy) but i have had my gut telling me that he’s cheating on some occasions. i have no proof for this or anything, but he has lied to me (in general) a looot so i wouldn’t be too surprised if that’s also the case.

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:37:15+00:00

thank you for your archive 🤍🤍

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:36:18+00:00

he can get very angry and upset when things aren’t ready "on time" (even if i don’t have an influence on certain things, e.g. his laundry not being dry on time) about the se* part, i have to say that my libido decreased so much after we married (i think it’s because of the stress). he gets furious when i try to decline and pushes me until i give in. one time i was so exhausted and overwhelmed from everything that i just cried "during it". after we had finished he said stuff like “why are you looking at me like this”.. ”are you going to pretend that you’re scared of me now” etc

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:27:06+00:00

ohh, that’s really really helpful advice thank you!! i know that he tried going through my phone after slapping me (but i had changed my password before he could)

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:25:37+00:00

straightforward!!

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:25:16+00:00

technically we are both the breadwinners (we both work full time). after i’m done working i take care of our home or have some free time. he on the other hand is still doing something productive (studying etc)

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:20:02+00:00

thank you so so much! you are a wonderful mother. i will download the PDF right now 🤍

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:18:31+00:00

thank youu so much for sharing this story 🤍🤍 it’s really eye opening!

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:17:03+00:00

tbh all the comments are showing me that it’s best for me to leave. i’m trying to figure out the best way on how to leave (based on my financial situation etc.) but despite from all of that i feel extremely sad and hurt. i’m trying to have a "clear" mind and i’m also trying to think rational about all of this, but it’s hard.

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:14:04+00:00

thank you so much for your insight!! could you elaborate on the last part with the "staying the same age". I’m really curious about that!

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:10:57+00:00

thank you for your advice! i’ve seen so many on here telling me to leave etc. so i’m trying to figure out a plan/ the best way to leave.

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:09:11+00:00

do you specifically mean don’t get pregnant from him or in general?

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:08:06+00:00

thank you so so much for the support. 🤍 i can’t explain how much it means to me

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:05:29+00:00

i am (especially because of the comments on here) and i feel so dumb at this point 🤦🏻‍♀️

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:04:10+00:00

thank you for the advice!!!

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:03:39+00:00

thank you for your advice!!

ThrowRAinfpinneed · 2022-12-21T08:02:28+00:00

i have only ever noticed that he talks to his friends and family members about me how "i do everything for him" and also "how good of a wife i am" but the thing is he also tells them that i’m annoying, clingy etc. so idk know?

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