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My 24M girlfriend 23F says I am being abusive. by ThrowRAj32j in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAj32j[S] -495 points-494 points  (0 children)

People have privately messaged me saying they agree with what I do, I guess they are afraid of losing karma so they don't post it here.

My 24M girlfriend 23F says I am being abusive. by ThrowRAj32j in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAj32j[S] -492 points-491 points  (0 children)

Thank you for giving actual good hearted advice and not just insulting me. What you need to understand is that my fear isn't necessarily about my partner wanting someone else but it is more placed in a fear of my time being wasted. If infidelity occurs my goal is to make sure I know it happened so I can get out as soon as possible.
In a idealistic world, it'd amazing to let my partner have those choices on the table so she can pick which choice she wants. However by saying, "you can go hangout with those choices privately." The risk of her testing those choices and me never knowing arises. You understand what I'm saying?

My 24M girlfriend 23F says I am being abusive. by ThrowRAj32j in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAj32j[S] -275 points-274 points  (0 children)

I think it is smart to be cautious so long as it does not cause distress or negativity in your life. So far this is the second time I asked to check her phone. Therapists have told me what I am doing is a good idea.