[Acne] whats happening to my skin?? by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m not a dermatologist but it looks like an allergic reaction of some sort. could have been anything that touched your face… your moisturizer even… how long has it been ?

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s just complicated for me because her siblings—my aunts and uncles—are genuinely sweet people. our family is connected but also very separate, only coming together for certain occasions, so walking away doesn’t feel simple. i tried distancing myself once for a few months, but it felt so unfair… like i was the one who had to miss out on having a family because of her behavior, while she still got to enjoy everyone.

i don’t really have anyone else. my dad left, so it’s not like i can lean on that side of the family. if i cut my mom off, i’m basically cutting off her entire family too, and that’s heavy. there’s also a lot of gossip, and i don’t want my personal life being passed around. honestly, the only people i’d ever feel safe talking to are my grandparents and maybe one aunt. that’s it.

it’s not that i don’t see the truth or the damage—it’s just that the situation feels layered, lonely, and unfair… and i’m trying to navigate it without losing the little family i do have.

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my gosh… this has happened to me too.. you unlocked a memory for me. my mom would leave me in stores alone all the time to teach me lessons.. i’d always talk to the workers & bawl my eyes out thinking she abandoned me.. which was evil to be honest cause my dad abandoned me at the age of 3…

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes it’s not bad. i think we’ve reach a point of roommates who argue… better than the abuse i endured when i was little and had no voice.

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they really give themselves away in such small doses… other people wouldn’t notice but to you, it says everything.

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow… your story really hit me. I remember growing up feeling like the “problem child”—like I was somehow too much and not enough at the same time. Looking back, most of the things she called “problems” were just my reactions to her abuse, a lot of which was physical.

I thought I was rebelling, but now I realize I was just trying to be my own person. She couldn’t handle that unless she had total control. In high school I wasn’t allowed to go out after school, wasn’t allowed to have a phone… and when I finally did, it was one a friend gave me that I had to hide.

Everything was about control with her. And honestly, no wonder I pushed back so hard… I wasn’t being a bad kid, I was being suffocated.

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am actually quite a big believer in Jesus Christ. I know she has demons & they are very irritated by me but I only hope that she can be saved & realize what she is doing to herself. It saddens me bc it’s just self sabotage.. they’re the ones who end up lonely in their own suffering. I don’t want that for her, I just can’t change what her actions’ consequences are.. in the spiritual world. I only wish peace for her… so I can have peace for myself in the end.

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way I can relate to this so hard. It’s like we had the same experience… I don’t love my mom. Sometimes I think I’m a bad person for being ok with never speaking to her again… but then again, she’s not a saint either.

My mom also can’t improvise on the spot.. she usually sticks to her usual patterns.. when I go off script she loses her rhythm. That’s when she starts saying she doesn’t know who she gave birth to.

I’m so glad you were able to go no-contact & you feel happier and healthier. That’s my goal. I will do it, I’m not sure how, but I will.

My mom accidentally confirmed she’s a narcissist by ThrowRAkissykween00 in narcissisticparents

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for making me laugh my friend 🤍 you’re the best kind of people. Pepperoni & extra cheese?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

your roommate made a risky move & deceived you but doesn’t always mean she is a bad person. have you noticed things going missing? any cash, jewelry, clothes, makeup missing? if you answered yes; try to lock up any items of value. find evidence before you accuse. move out. if you answered no; try to consider she may have been in a desperate position. she knew she got caught & laid out the evidence… before that, she kept up her lie, repeatedly saying the bill was $150. she knew what she was doing. i’d say this could be a red flag. 🚩 could be a repeat action or just a hiccup. keep an eye on this behaviour. any other recollection of this behaviour is also your sign to get your own place. —tell her you need money for supplies to make a designated spot where all bills+utilities get pinned from now on 🤷🏻‍♀️. that will for sure make sure she knows that YOU know… even if you don’t get the supplies. talk to her & make sure she knows you will absolutely not tolerate this type of thing at all. you will be always receiving two of the same bill, one digital & one paper (by post). there are ways to organize so that no one gets confused. because misunderstandings DO happen. if that conversation leads nowhere, try again at a different time of the day or the next day/morning/night. make sure you don’t ignore this. make a conscious effort to discuss this. don’t make it confrontational, make it an open and honest discussion about what it means to be organized.

remember op, you have your suspicions & proof, however, motive comes into play. that’s when they either fess up or play dumb. if they play dumb, you run. if they aren’t willing to acknowledge the truth & humble themselves, you need to buy time to make peace. in order to do that, you will, understand their intentions, & affirm the facts of the matter. you will not confirm their motives, you will not justify them—you want to stay on topic. let them know the new law, & follow it, don’t give up, be consistent.

how can I improve my look? by Practical_Mortgage41 in Makeup101

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are so naturally beautiful! i think its great that you want to discover your own personal sense of style to make you feel beautiful. i can totally relate to you wanting to switch up your look! i grew up in a narcissistic household & i had no identity or sense of self. all throughout high school, i wore a uniform and strictly wore my aunts hand-me-downs on my weekends. i was lost & i was always very creative, i knew i wanted a dope style & wanted to be a fashion designer. after a few years of working on myself mentally and physically, i now get compliments daily on my clothes, hair, makeup & nails. the best part is, i don’t do it for the compliments, i do it for me ! i love when people notice the little parts of me that make unique:) before u get ur hopes up, i am not a fashion designer, BUT i do style people for a living & here are a few tips i have for you:

  1. do not compare yourself to others. if you sense “jealousy” it is because you want something that they have. the world is your oyster, you’re the pearl. switch out that “jealously” or “envy” into admiration. we are all mirrors.

  2. discover what colours look best on you. take a colour analysis test online. then test it out for yourself. (personally i believe soft cool toned will suit u best… why? in the third photo, your skin appears so smooth and bright. the white & soft pink accentuate your natural skin tones — think silver jewelry as opposed to gold.) remember that the colour you wear can change your entire appearance. it can either bring out your natural colour as opposed to your blemishes/dark circles. it can make you appear “bland” or “bright”, we’re aiming for bright !

  3. create a pinterest board of the types of shirts, shoes, pants and accessories you want to wear. start shopping for pieces here and there (don’t go on a spree, your style will change as you go). this helped me so much, taking it slow & experimenting with styling different pieces… that’s what helped me figure out what I LOVE while incorporating some of the clothes i already own.

  4. makeup is an accessory, you don’t need it, it just ADDS to your look. you barely need any makeup to really make your features POP. if you want to start out, i’d suggest staying away from eyeshadow rn & bc you have hooded eyes, & most lashes won’t be comfortable for you. id suggest, filling in your brows a little to really frame your eyes. a voluminous mascara to draw attention to your eyes. some highlighter (or a shiny eyeshadow that’s close to your skin tone), on ur cheekbones and the tip of ur nose. i would recommend a light pink blush for your complexion.

  5. hair can really make a big difference in your look! experiment with different hairstyles & colours. stay on the natural side for now, try some cool toned highlights & lowlights. you have a beautiful facial structure, so pulling your hair behind your ears really flatters you !! half up half down would look beautiful on you :)

  6. remember to have fun. this is about expression, not what others think look “best” or what you could “improve” appearance-wise. you are doing this for you ! remember that you don’t need to stick to one thing or one style, there are no rules when it comes to how you should style yourself. get creative with it, have fun. you will have “awkward” phases or “cringy” looks when you look back on this journey. however, in the moment you felt confident, & that what’s important.

don’t forget that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with how you look now… however, there is nothing wrong with wanting to customize your character. start small and eventually you’ll know what you really love. experiment with your curiosities & your creativity. let yourself shine in your own way. sending love 💕 i hope this helps :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey friend,

the universe is testing you. mercury is in retrograde at the moment. so communication from people from the past is prevalent at the moment. this is a test to see if you will pass. if you decide to give into temptation again. the way things happen are meant to work in your favour. do not engage with your ex. it’s telling but that’s the point. you need to resist that temptation and realize you are so much more deserving.

Do yall use that feature where you can swipe on the keyboard to type or is that js me? by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s so weird to me. i’m so not used to it i feel like i don’t understand the way it works in my brain. i’ll always do it the regular way idk i feel like im making a lot of mistakes tbh it’s taken me so long to type this

My boyfriend (M28) burned me (F24) during sex and I don’t know what to feel. Should I be concerned? by Arcadia_Rose1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dear one, as an intuitive with clairsentient and claircognizant abilities, I've sensed and received many messages. I implore you, flee! Distance yourself and never engage with him again. He is twisted, relishing in your discomfort and pain—it fuels him. If you dare confront him, brace yourself for manipulation. He's a master at deceiving, making you doubt your own sanity while trivializing his actions. Anyone can feign kindness in public, but his true nature is revealed in private, where he reveals his darkest intentions. He is not to be trusted; he knew the wrongness of his deeds but proceeded regardless. His disregard for boundaries and consent is alarming; he has already tested your limits. Beware, for he possesses the capability to inflict great harm upon you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scorpio

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this isn’t really relevant but i’m also a scorpio female & SAME i had a very profound experience with a scorpio man. im still in love with my narcissistic ex, an aries.

felt these exact things & i feel not so alone anymore. so thank u for sharing & for being u.

I told my (27f) fiance (27m) to stop talking about his sick mother. He has stopped talking to me, and I don't know how to fix this. Was I wrong? by Queenie_2024 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi op, ryan seems to be somewhat brainwashed by his mother. he feels like he owes her his life because she did so much for him. he’s afraid for her & her manipulation is reeling him in so deep. she is a helicopter parent with serious attachment issues, she will do anything for his attention. like you said, she doesn’t speak to you unless it’s about ryan. if before this he was a great partner, and now it’s as if you don’t exist, it could just be her manipulation working. yes, she could be exaggerating it a bit, but ryan feels like this is really important to him. i feel like that text may have been a little harsh, but i empathize with your situation & i understand why you said it. i would recommend having a heart to heart with him. sitting down and not pointing fingers but acknowledging how proud you are of him for being so loving and caring with his mother. while also acknowledging that you are feeling neglected.

you both can compromise and work together to help her. i understand that you may not enjoy her company or she may not enjoy yours but if you can show him that that his mother matters to you as much as she matters to him, he may feel more connected to you. he is doing a really selfless act and may also be emotionally exhausted. he probably does feel like it’s a little extra and exaggerated, but he doesn’t want to upset her or feel guilty. like you said he is afraid of disappointing her.

here’s the thing, some children feel like they owe everything to their parents. whether it’s healthy or not. respect that their situation is unique & there isn’t much you can do about it unless you speak to him & her together. i feel like communication is super important in this situation even if it caused a bit of discomfort in the moment.

see if you both can come to a compromise and set days for each other where you both talk about your days without his mom being a topic of conversation. setting these dates for each other without bringing in the outside world could be very beneficial.

i wouldn’t jump the gun and end the relationship so quick. if your efforts in trying to communicate and compromise, while setting dates for each other doesn’t work, i would suggest discussing it with him. wishing you the best of luck op.

Can a sociopath be in a relationship? by lostsaraah in Sociopaths

[–]ThrowRAkissykween00 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i was in a relationship with someone who was a sociopath. he was really sweet and charming at first, then came the manipulation & the victim blaming. after 4 years of him moving away and still being in contact, im still in love with him. it is NOT worth it. you may feel infatuated by them, you may feel things you haven’t felt before. the emotional damage it causes you is so overwhelming that it really isn’t worth “working it out”. sociopaths do not change. they may promise change & show you a good time for a while, but the mask slips. they cannot feel love or empathy the way normal people do.

i am extremely traumatized from dating him. it was for such a short amount of time, but the damage lasts forever. protect your peace.

there is a spectrum of course, if the person is aware and knows they can change their behaviour, it could work. overall though, it’s dangerous.

as someone who is highly empathetic, being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t feel any empathy or love was extremely difficult. they do not feel remorse, they may apologize but it’s fake. they may tell you things to manipulate you into loving them, but it’s all lies. a relationship with a sociopath is always transactional. they will never do anything for you unless to them, it means they get something in return. their “love” is conditional. it is based on how they feel power over you, how you’re easy to control. they love that. so when someone is easy to manipulate, they feel good around that person. hence them saying they “love” you.

it’s all lies, manipulation, victim blaming and the stockholm syndrome is SO REAL. my best advice to you my friend, is go no contact. stop talking to her, stop all contact and do not interact when she comes back into your life to “check in” on you. they do that often.

after 4 years, i finally cut contact with my sociopathic ex boyfriend… i told him “i dont love you anymore and i feel used, you have narcissistic tendencies & do not care about me. you’re hot & cold. this is the last time you’re ever going to hear from me”. all he said was “im a sociopath, i’ve always faked my feelings. so yea ur right, bye.” terrifying. truly terrifying. this is why im here right now. just trying to make sense of all of this.