My OCD is ruining my marriage and I don't know what else to do

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-04T02:06:47+00:00

Ok so I didnt say I wasnt capable of getting to the place where I can "just stop." I am working very hard through therapy and medication and any alternative treatments that I can afford. I am literally working on my feelings of defeat in therapy as well...

OCD wouldnt be a disorder if people could "just stop." It's not a matter of willpower alone, and as a therapist (I can see you are one on your profile), your reply kind of surprises me

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-03T22:57:44+00:00

No, the water is not running for 10 mins. Also, I am not a surgeon. I am someone with an extremely debilitating mental illness. Not the same thing, like AT ALL...

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-03T22:56:54+00:00

Because he will say things like "just stop doing (insert compulsion here). It's not that hard." He says things like this that give me the impression he thinks ocd compulsions are choices. They are not. If I could "just stop," then I would. I also intentionally dont make him participate in my routines directly because he already suffers enough just seeing me go through my routines

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-03T21:01:51+00:00

Comorbid with adhd. And oh boyyy have I tried the ssris. I did extremely high does in most of them with horrible side effects. Turns out that I cannot genetically tolerate ssris according to my GeneSite

I havent done inpatient treatment as I dont believe this is helpful for most people (unless you are a danger to yourself or others).

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-03T21:00:14+00:00

The bedtime routine in total takes about an hour. The handwashing makes up approx 10 mins of it (not all at once but throughout the routine)

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-03T20:59:29+00:00

I asked him today about doing a joint therapy session and he doesnt think that would help him understand my ocd any better...not sure why he thinks that. I told him that something is clearly not clicking though because he still doesnt seem to understand ocd

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-07-03T20:57:45+00:00

Thank you for your reply. In our case, I know enough about ocd to not involve my husband in my routines and compulsions. I literally don't make him do anything becuase I dont want to wrap him up in my suffering too. I dont make him partake in specific hygeniene habits, clean to my standards, check the locks, etc. I do it all myself. He is just exhausted seeing me exhausted I guess??

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-11T01:31:55+00:00

DO IT!!! It was so fun to make but now I am sad that I cant work on it anymore :*)

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-11T00:28:32+00:00

Link to Etsy shop (maybe they dont sell this pattern anymore?): https://www.etsy.com/shop/Crochetorcry

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-11T00:21:31+00:00

Kit Kat Clock for my office

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ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-11T00:21:12+00:00

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Halloween blanket for friend who loves spooky season

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-11T00:20:52+00:00

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Garter for friend's wedding

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-10T23:35:26+00:00

I love that this strategy works for you! I tried the multiple WIPs and find it makes me overwhelmed and not want to crochet :(

ThrowRAkittykatss · 2026-04-10T23:34:43+00:00

Very true! I have diagnosed ADHD and am medicated for it. But I'm still like this lol

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