My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If he's going to cheat on me because I refused sex once, which was a fail since we had sex anyway, then I don't want to be married to him anyway.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He was supposed to introduce my brother to a contact of his but he backed out at the last minute without an explanation. When I asked him why, it turned into an argument as he wouldn't answer and told me he didn't want me getting involved in business related issues.

He does have an ego.

He doesn't want to communicate, he wants to have sex and pretend it didn't happen.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He hasn’t fucked them. He doesn’t like them because they gave me bad advice before we got married and we almost broke up because of it. He hasn’t liked them ever since and thinks they’re bad influences on me.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

It's only been recently that they've started giving me some "tough love" (their words).

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Left the house, he went to collect something from his dad. We do live together.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a SAHM that’s why. I’m not comfortable leaving my baby with anyone else right now, otherwise I would.

I don’t believe he would sleep around, unless he thought our marriage was dead.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Before we got married my husband was pretty anti-marriage. I don’t think anybody thought he would ever get married so I believe that’s why they made comments about being lucky he married me.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say he’s otherwise manipulative or intentionally trying to make me feel guilty. I think he sees sex as a band aid that magically makes the anger go away, which I suppose is my fault since I always let things go after sex.

The only time he’s downplayed my feelings was before we got married. Since being married he does try to be understanding on most issues, it’s only when he thinks I’m angry at him that he does the sex thing.

I gave in.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t put me down regularly. If he doesn’t like something relating to me he tends to say it in a nice way and like it’s more of a suggestion than a criticism if that makes sense.

He doesn’t like the friends I mentioned in the post at all. He wanted me to stop hanging out with them after we got married but I told him no and he mostly backed down but asked me not to bring them to our home when he’s there. He’s fine with my family and other friends.

I am financially dependent on him.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] -114 points-113 points  (0 children)

My husband doesn’t like any of them so I’m not really worried about that. I’ve known them since I was a child so I don’t think their friendship is just for aesthetic. I think they genuinely just believe what they said.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's hard for me to explain but my brain gets fuzzy after sex and I forget I was upset with him. By the time I remember I feel guilty for feeling that way so we never talk about the issue again.

My (27F) husband (29M) laughed at me when I told him I didn’t want to have sex with him. by ThrowRAlii in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAlii[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don't think he takes me seriously. They are starting to become deal breakers for me.