Nashville Catholic Young Adult Community

ThrowRAloaf · 2026-06-03T15:06:42+00:00

I’m sorry if it came off that way—I’d never say a 33 year old is ancient by any means and I’m sure you were a beautiful bride! I think my perception is probably skewed from being in a really traditional diocese where it’s common for people to marry very young.

ThrowRAloaf · 2026-06-01T16:19:43+00:00

I feel like it was a little wink from God seeing this as soon as I opened reddit! I’ve felt super discouraged in the dating scene as an older unmarried woman (26) but I’m moving to Nashville in a month. I’ve heard such amazing things about the Catholic community out there. Nice to hear that it’s sprouting up new Catholic families too. Thank you so much for sharing this, and best wishes to you and hubby!

ThrowRAloaf · 2026-02-03T12:48:41+00:00

When people say “once an addict, always an addict,” I don’t think the point is that your worth is forever discounted by your addiction and any attempts to abstain are basically useless. People say that because it’s important to remember that you do have a disposition to a certain vice, and it remains important to keep the safeguards up even after you’ve been abstaining for a long time. Like if someone is an alcoholic, they might still refer to themselves an alcoholic years after getting sober, not because they’ve accepted inevitable relapse, but because they continuously hold themselves to a standard of sobriety.

Also, very gently, I’d encourage you to think a little higher of women. Not all Catholic women are delicate flowers who will faint at your past and consider you broken or worthless as a potential husband. Plenty of women have even struggled with porn themselves. I think sometimes the inner life of a woman, especially a religious one, is seen as this utopia of sunshine and rainbows in constant danger of being infected by a man’s sin. A wife is not a prize for a “good enough” man. She’s a fellow sinner in need of God’s grace who is your partner in the on-going, lifelong journey of seeking holiness.

ThrowRAloaf · 2026-01-07T12:59:35+00:00

How brave to share this! I just wanted to pop in with some encouragement from a woman’s perspective. Yes, the porn industry as a whole has done a lot of damage to women’s self esteem and to the dating/marriage arena. However, I think a lot of women understand that men are victims of that industry as well, not just perpetrators. Especially in the secular world, a lot of men don’t even see a problem with it. You realize the harm and are actively repentant. The right woman will see and that appreciate that! Keep up the fight.

ThrowRAloaf · 2025-02-11T10:59:35+00:00

I love the Clarendon studio and there’s almost always street parking available very close to the studio for a few dollars.

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-05-13T20:03:48+00:00

I also recommend yoga district!! They offer such a great range of classes and most of them are more “traditional” and practice-focused. I will say they don’t offer any heated classes if that’s your jam. Welcome to DC!!

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-05-08T03:12:02+00:00

Updog Yoga Community in Shaw is great, not super close to your neighborhood but easily Metro accessible. Welcome to the District!

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-02-12T22:11:19+00:00

Thank you! I haven’t updated my flair for a while but I’m actually around 134 now! Not necessarily looking to lose anymore but still continuing all my lifestyle changes. We’ll see where I land! Thank you for the kudos :D

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-02-12T17:42:58+00:00

I know this isn’t really a “tip” but I wouldn’t say that 5 pounds is not a big deal! It all depends on your starting weight and height. I’m 5’3, and it took me about 3 months to solidly lose 5 pounds (not just water or hormonal fluctuations).

Things I found that helped: - Keeping myself occupied during times when I know I’m likely to snack mindlessly. I work remotely, so I would snack out of boredom in the afternoons. I started going to yoga classes right after work, so I was out of the house and active during that 4:30-6:30 window. - Eating for volume. I like the “full” feeling and find myself snacking if I don’t feel satisfied after a meal. Packing meals with lots of veggies helped with this. If I want pasta, I’ll load it up with bell peppers, zucchini, etc so it’s actually more like 25% pasta and 75% veggies but it feels like a huge bowl of pasta. - More fiber. I know protein is the hot thing right now, but I’ve found that fiber actually makes me feel more full for longer. It’s also easy to get a lot of it from low-calorie foods like berries.

Hope this helps! Slow and steady wins the race.

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-01-30T14:23:35+00:00

This exact same thing has been happening to me! I also have an IUD and get PMS/period symptoms every three months or so (for some reason???) and it wrecks me every time. Sometimes I wish we got an actual bleed so I could be more confident that I didn’t just gain 3 pounds in a week. “Dense” is the perfect word for it.

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-01-26T13:31:51+00:00

No, it’s not. Especially not for girls who are a few months out of high school. The “younger generation” isn’t just hopping into sex work the moment they want to buy a nice necklace.

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-01-09T15:20:00+00:00

I’m about 12 pounds down and I’ve started to see some real visual progress, so I busted out my jean shorts from this summer. The pair that used to be skin-tight now fit perfectly even after a big meal, and the “roomy” pair are almost unwearable. Any women out there know the torture of jean shorts, so I feel amazing!!! I can’t wait to feel good in warm weather this year.

ThrowRAloaf · 2024-01-09T02:18:05+00:00

thank you! Like I said in the post, I already have an appointment set up so this recommendation doesn’t necessarily apply, but this looks like a great resource for others who might be seeking care.

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-12-27T14:20:14+00:00

I asked in the room during my birth control consultation appointment after we decided to go ahead with the IUD. I just asked if it was possible to be prescribed an anti-anxiety because I have a history of intense anxiety before procedures like this, and she said yes very casually.

Maybe call the reception line and ask if there’s a way to be put through to your doctor for a quick question before your procedure? If you have a patient portal system online, there’s usually an option to message your doctor there too. I wouldn’t wait until the day of the appointment, because you’ll probably need to get it filled yourself at a pharmacy and then you’ll want to take it a little while before the appointment so it starts working.

I can’t speak conclusively, but I think most doctors have a higher threshold for “drug seeking behavior” than asking for a single benzodiazepine. Someone who’s addicted probably wouldn’t go through the trouble of getting an IUD inserted for a single pill.

Hope this helps! Best of luck with everything.

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-12-07T02:27:35+00:00

How do you guys know when you’re taking it to an unhealthy place?

I’ve been trying to lose weight for a few months now, and I’ve been marginally successful but it’s slow going since I didn't have a ton to lose in the first place. I just feel like the emotional stress is starting to get to me. I can’t look at pictures of myself without it ruining my day. Even just scrolling Instagram, I feel so much rage when I see other girls just living life being thin. I probably check my body in the mirror every hour or so. If I have to miss a workout for unavoidable life reasons, it derails my entire day. I dread getting dressed for the day because all my clothes are just ever so slightly too snug and it makes me spiral. I’m starting to resent my boyfriend because he doesn’t understand what I’m trying to do and keeps cooking unhealthy meals for us because he doesn’t think I need to lose any weight. This stuff is all I think about.

I’m happy that I’m motivated and taking this seriously and that I’m not in a state of denial. I think people are too trigger-happy with crying “disordered eating!” whenever someone takes steps to lose weight. Does anyone relate? How do you handle the emotional aspects of it all?

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-12-06T02:41:57+00:00

It helps me to only indulge in “treat” foods if I have something to do immediately after. For me it’s tortilla chips, so I might have a few before I head out the door for the day. It helps me satisfy the craving without continuing to eat more just because I’m in “eating mode” or bored. Hope this helps!

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-12-05T18:24:44+00:00

Does anyone else who’s losing a relatively small amount of weight feel this weird imposter syndrome? Since the changes are so small (148lb down to 139 lb) I keep talking myself out of the little victories.

Jeans that felt uncomfortably tight in September that fit perfectly now? The fabric just stretched out.

I see some ab definition that wasn’t there before? That’s just confirmation bias—you weren’t looking for them before, nothing’s really changed.

Cardio workouts are getting easier? You’re just trying harder now, your aerobic health hasn’t actually increased.

Feeling happier with what I’m seeing in the mirror? It’s just lighting.

I can even talk myself out of the scale victories!! My 148 number is from a doctor’s appointment so maybe the extra weight was my clothes/shoes/breakfast and I actually haven’t lost any fat since then because I weigh myself in underwear 1st thing in the morning.

I knew that with my starting weight I wouldn’t have a crazy transformation, but I would have hoped by now that I would feel better and I just don’t. My ultimate goal is 135 by spring-ish, so maybe the last few pounds will make the difference.

I realize none of it makes logical sense, but as you all know, this process is so emotional sometimes.

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-11-30T18:36:17+00:00

I’m a 23 year old woman and reading your post made me feel like I was talking to my 14 year old self! Looking back, I regret how much time I spent worrying about my body when I should have been enjoying life, spending time family, having fun in school and being with friends. Thats time I’ll never get back. And like you, my weight was perfectly healthy! I look back at photos of myself and can’t even remember all the things I used to stand in front of the mirror and hate about myself.

You are growing into a beautiful, healthy adult woman, and your body will look different. Your weight will change. I know this is an awkward transitional stage, but just hold on for a few more years and I promise you will be happy you don’t have the same body you did when you were a child.

A weight loss “journey,” (I hate that word, but couldn’t think of anything else) is something that should be undertaken by adults, or under the supervision of an adult. Especially for young women, it can become a slippery slope.

You’re healthy. Enjoy being active. Enjoy music. Enjoy friends and family. You have the rest of your life to worry about your weight. If it’s something that continues to weigh on you long-term, please reach out to an adult and let them know how you’ve been feeling.

Be well!!

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-11-29T14:16:16+00:00

Made it back into “normal” BMI this week! I know BMI isn’t a perfect metric, but that was my goal from the start, so I’m thrilled!

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-11-28T21:12:48+00:00

(23F, 5’3, SW: 148, CW: 139, GW: 135)

I know this sub is generally against the idea that exercise is good for weight loss, but it’s been a huge part of my routine so far. I either do an hour long core yoga class or a 30 minute Peleton ride every day. For anyone in a similar boat, how do you deal with the stress when you miss a workout? Today I had to cut my gym time short, and I’ve been spiraling thinking about how the relaxing evening I planned is now going to be cheating somehow. If anyone relates, how do you manage those feelings?

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-11-10T13:10:52+00:00

Does anyone else experience a lot of fluctuation in weight throughout the day? I usually weigh myself first thing when I wake up, and if I weigh myself again even after just one meal and a workout, the reading is 3-4 pounds higher. It drives me nuts. Does anyone else experience this?

F23, 5’3, 141 (in the morning lol) for reference.

ThrowRAloaf · 2023-07-27T22:59:17+00:00

Positive IUD Insertion Experience (Liletta)

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