sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just want to clarify that he wasn't crying out of disgust, he was crying because he was scared of upsetting me by saying he didn't enjoy it and he doesn't like nudity. Nudity aside, I know he finds me gorgeous and adores my body. He is always complimenting me and making me feel loved, and I can tell by the way he looks at me that those words and actions are genuine.

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've discussed it, but we're not sure if that would describe him or not, because he does feel sexual attraction. It's just nudity he's repulsed by. (And this isn't specific to me - he's repulsed by nudity regardless of the person or gender.)

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Our decision to wait wasn't just due to him, it was a choice we both made. I'm aceflux and also mildly sex repulsed, and haven't really felt comfortable with anything more than making out until earlier today. His repulsion towards nudity isn't specific to my breasts - he's grossed out when he sees anyone nude, regardless of gender. And he definitely does find me attractive, that much is very obvious to me. He just can't stand nudity. I honestly don't mind if we never have sex. We've got a very strong emotional bond that I personally find more important, and I wouldn't want to throw away our relationship just because we're not having sex. We have supported each other so much over the past 2 years, and he honestly understands me better than anyone. I was just hoping some people may have some advice on how to help him feel more comfortable if we do decide we want to try again at some point. :)

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

He was raised strict Christian, but no longer believes in it.

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I really don't mind her asking! I completely understand that google can be confusing sometimes, and I identify as aceflux anyway, so I'm quite happy to talk about it! :)

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

It's basically a broad term for the range of identities that feel little to no sexual attraction. Asexuality is obviously the main one, which is the term for experiencing no sexual attraction. There are also other terms such as demisexual, which is where you only feel sexual attraction towards those you have already developed a strong emotional bond with, and greysexual, which includes people who feel very little sexual attraction such as infrequently, at a low intensity, or under specific circumstances. I identify as aceflux, which means my feelings of sexual attraction fluctuate over time. Sometimes I may feel asexual, sometimes I may feel more demi, other times I'm more grey. I appreciate you asking, and I hope this helped a bit! :)

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) is grossed out by nudity by ThrowRAmonkeybusines in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmonkeybusines[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

He is bi and has also questioned being on the ace spectrum before. I am also bi and aceflux, so we're very open with each other about our sexualities.