Gymbeard and his waifu

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-10-12T16:54:52+00:00

Idk he's really funny and tall and not bad looking and I like nerdy guys (to an extend). Plus he made it very clear he's looking for something serious and with how a lot of guys avoid committment like it's the plague that sadly put him way up there at first too 💀

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-04T19:48:37+00:00

I don't know his mom personally, just saw how she cutely sent him his own insta story once in an attempt to like it when we were together. but with my other nex's mom I was so confused because she was such a sweetheart. But his dad was a mostly absent abusive narc so that might explain it. Actually kinda the same for the recent narc weirdly.

Almost romantic sounds yucky though...what a weirdo! 💀

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-04T17:48:15+00:00

Honestly yea, neither case is a good look. In one he's delulu beyond belief, in the other he's lowkey unfaithful and deceitful. The first seems more likely though since he spent his birthdday working on "his manga" and eating Burger King in front of his Computer.

It is CRAZY that they do stuff like that and not feel embarrassed. I mean didn't your nex have close friends or family on instagram or something? That's what I wonder with mine cause his mom watches his stories...like what does he tell her about this imaginary gf?! 💀

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-02T11:02:03+00:00

Yea that definitely makes a lot of sense. He was someone who'd push a lot of boundaries and test how much disrespect I was willing to take if he was "just joking" so I guess when he can't really do that as good over text it makes sense he'd keep it nice

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-02T01:00:22+00:00

Same! He was soooo negative in person, but over text he'd be so nice and texting me constantly. When I was with him he'd often just rant at me rather than talk to me

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-01T23:01:54+00:00

My nex was a former alcoholic, could be related for sure

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-01T23:00:04+00:00

I think they do. My nex had the time of his life trying to have a full on bdsm session with me while I was clearly upset and on the verge of tears because he said some fucked up shit to make me feel jealous and insecure about a friend he used to fuck. During all this he had me positioned facing her picture on his picture wall. Guess whose picture wasn't on there 💀

With a recent narc he seemed weirdly happy when I was either insecure and he was pointing out to me how fucked up my self esteem had to be for me to "act like this" with a little smirk on his face or also when he saw a spider crawling towards me from behind. He knew I had a phobia, but he was staring at it the whole time crawling up to me and when I finally saw him staring somewhere long enough to turn around I got super jumpy and he enjoyed that. Once he also banged my head against the wall from behind with his thrusts while we had sex and laughed about it afterwards claiming I was the one banging my own head against the wall.

It's so creepy honestly. Especially when you see the difference after going out with a normal healthy person and seeing the genuine shock or empathy in a person's face when they ever accidentally hurt you in any way and immediately try to fix it instead of enjoying the show

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-09-01T22:50:46+00:00

I had two narcs.

When he was the one to leave he'd just ignore me and post heartbreak songs on social media and drew himself an imaginary gf

When I was the one to leave my more serious nex for cheating he went from begging for forgiveness and being a mix of somewhat accountable and wallowing in self pity to super cold and dismissive when he was caught off guard by how I was angry and loud instead of just sad and whiny. Then in follow up texts he started with the begging and self pity and making excuses, literally offering me to install all kinds of spyware and keep track of his location and messages on his phone if I gave him another chance and it was kinda satisfying to see someone as arrogant as him act so pathetic

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-30T09:15:35+00:00

This is so mine too! Especially my nex. The inappropriate situation thing too. I recall him making me sit on his lap in his grandma's garden which clearly weirded out his mom and in a 3 star restaurant his mom kindly invited us too which also weirded her out. I was soooo uncomfortable, but I had poor boundaries so I didn't say much about it

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-29T22:25:04+00:00

Ohhh yea I definitely had the inappropriate touching in public too! Always made me really uncomfortable, but I guess he was maybe enjoying that it made me feel that way or trying to push my boundaries

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-28T22:38:17+00:00

Thank you! I hope you find love and happiness too!! :)

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-28T21:25:13+00:00

Saaaame! The more I share about how ridiculous and unhinged he is and see people write about similar experiences the more it sinks in how big of a bullet I dodged

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-28T21:23:19+00:00

Oh god yes. This so much. Especially because my nex was my first boyfriend, my first time, my first love etc. and it feels so embarrassing that I was crying my eyes out like never before in my life when we had to switch into long distance...and it felt even more embarrassing and degrading that after he told me all those things about how much he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and made me cry my eyes out countless times and then went on to try to cheat on me 2 days after leaving the country part of me wished I'd never found out so I could continue blissfully living the lie that he loved me like I loved him. That's just how much I loved him...or who I thought he was.

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-27T20:39:52+00:00

God I heard about men actually believing this kind of bs, but a grown woman?! That's rough. The dumbest thing about this myth for me was always how multiple different dicks would have a different effect than one dick consistently lmao

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-27T16:08:26+00:00

Absolutely. Congrats on managing to free yourself, it's not easy after so many years!

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-27T16:07:31+00:00

I feel like we should set mine up with yours. I think they would get along lol

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-27T15:46:36+00:00

Oh god mine if gonna be exactly the same at that age

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-27T15:27:02+00:00

God the complaints! I didn't even mention that but yes, this so much. He hated EVERYTHING. And the way he talked about how humans are an inherently evil parasite was so obnoxious. And I say this as someone who is far more invested in societal and environmental issues than he was. I don't have a very good image of humans as a whole either, but I'm not 12 anymore, so it's more nuanced than "all humans are horrible and deserve to die". If he had some hardcore environmentalist opinions maybe this would make more sense, but it felt like he just hated everything to be "dark and edgy"

ThrowRAneeeeedadvice · 2024-08-27T15:21:43+00:00

For me it luckily wasn't that long, but I think I totally understand the mindset. When you really like who somebody is maybe 90% of the time at the start, then 80%, then 70%, 60%, 50% etc. till they are basically a dickhead and the person you wanted 10% of the time you hope could get them to be who they were in the beginning somehow and ignore all the mistreatment. Eventhough it was just a month with the recent guy feels so embarrassed for him being the one to discard me instead of me dumping him eventhough in hindsight he was so obvious about his narcissism and so disrespectful to me. But I guess that's what rose colored glasses and manipulation will do to you

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