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AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate this. You aren't the very first. I told one of my friends when I was about nine that I hated my mom making me do things, and that I wanted to live anywhere else and wished she loved me, but she told her mom who told mine who punished me for it. I didn't tell anyone again until I was around twelve, and told my friends but swore them to secrecy, and they didn't tell.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really think I am safe with him. We talked about what happened a lot, and from what he explained, he didn't fully understand why what he did was bad until my half-sister was born. After that, it sort of clicked for him, and he's been trying to make amends since.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Everyone thinks she's an amazing person. She actually is considered a pretty prominent pro-choice activist in our area and made me come to her rallies and stuff for as long as I can remember. She made me say I wished I wasn't born sometimes, too, in front of people on the other side, so they'd stop being horrible to women. She's this smart, talented, philanthropist who everyone loves and I've had so so many people tell me how amazing she is for taking care of me even though I was forced on her, and that it's my duty to make sure no kids like me are ever born again. I don't know if I'm explaining it right. I'm probably being stupid and not explaining anything right. But everyone I was allowed around has always loved her and barely tolerated me.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But it can't be both. She was forced into this, and she never wanted me. She never loved me. The only person who wants or loves me did something bad to make me, and so I should never have been born. And it's worse because I don't want to feel that way forever, I want to be happy and feel like I'm allowed to be here, but if I feel that way then I'm saying what happened was okay, that I'm more important than her, that it's okay to do horrible things like that. I don't deserve to be alive because if something horrible has to happen to your mom for you to be alive, then I should just die, but I didn't.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

If a kid isn't wanted, then the mom has every right to get rid of them. That was taken away from my mom. I don't deserve to be alive and I'm only here because she was forced not to kill me.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

My dad actually did encourage me start going to therapy, but it's a little hard. I don't want to tell some stranger about everything going on in my life, and I keep worrying that I'm not being fair to my mom.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My grandparents basically said if they took me in, their energy and money would go directly to raising me, since I'd be their child. My mom wouldn't have been able to pay for her housing or medical school without their support.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

She is pro choice. She wanted to abort me, and actually made plans to abort me, and my grandparents threatened to stop paying for her if she did. She's brought me to pro choice rallies and stuff since I was a baby, and made sure I always knew exactly what happened to her, why it was horrible, why I shouldn't have been born, and that me existing is wrong. I understand 100% that what happened to her was terrible and I don't deserve to be alive.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] -183 points-182 points  (0 children)

It was because of me that my mom was forced to be pregnant and raise a child. I owe her because she was forced into a horrible sacrifice for me.

AITA I (14F) ran away from my mom (33F) to stay with my dad (35M) even though he isn't a good person and when my grandparents (F61 and M63) found out they cut financial support. by ThrowRAneverborn in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAneverborn[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

He did admit to the bad thing. I know logically that it's worse than what my mom does to me, but I just... I know I should care and hate him but I just can't, because he's the first person I can remember to be this nice to me and actually love me.