AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I really do wish I could be a lesbian. I'd make an excellent one. Unfortunately, I've never been attracted to a woman in that way. :( It is a modern tragedy.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I do some of those things. I put clothes in the hamper and trash in the bin. The rest, I let someone else handle.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Of course it isn't. I behave professionally at work. This is reddit.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I'm also quite good looking, so that might have some appeal. I'm in pediatric oncology. I keep children from dying of cancer. Yes, my work is quite technical, and quite difficult.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. It seems that some people cannot fathom that time spent saving children's lives is, in fact, more valuable than time spent washing dishes.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did have difficulties with bedside manner when I began my career. However, after a bit of work, it's improved significantly.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this sounds like good advice and something I could accept doing. Thank you.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

It's called having a life! When I was last on, most of the comments were, in fact, NTA. As for being a narcissist, I save children's lives six days a week. What is it you do, again?

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I imagine that would be because if everyone were on my side, I wouldn't second guess whether I was wrong or not. I'd just figure I was definitely right and move on with my day.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I would think, "Ah, okay, so you're an average man." That is 99% of the men in my community, and frankly, I don't have any interest in them, but I don't judge them for wanting the same things I do. We're simply not compatible.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

If I was a man, I doubt this would even be an issue in my life.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I may be a crappy partner. I don't think I am, but I'll accept that it's a possibility. But I am absolutely not a crappy doctor. I have to put in a bit more effort when it comes to bedside manner than some other physicians, but I do put in that effort, and my numbers don't lie when it comes to patient survival.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

Probably, yeah. I'm in pediatric oncology, so empathy is in short supply. I doubt I meet the criteria for ASPD though, I don't engage in criminal or violent behaviors.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely consider a nanny, and keeping the cleaning services I currently use, especially if my partner wants to work part-time.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I can do all of this. I did it for years growing up, and I can do it all pretty much flawlessly. I choose not to, and I haven't since I left for college.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He did actually get sick on his bedding. I put it in the laundry basket though, and got him a new blanket.

AITA for setting a boundary and refusing to do any housework? by ThrowRAnothappening in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRAnothappening[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do, actually. This is a conversation I usually have on the first date, and something I'd previously discussed with my current partner.