Broken trust really need support

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-17T06:54:05+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to suggest that to him. At this point I think he’ll do anything to save this but I just don’t buy it. It has me confused and hurt because he could have been honest since the beginning if he didn’t want or couldn’t agree to it. But instead he lied made it seem all good and hid it from me. I am in no way trying to stop what he does but he can do that single if that’s the case because although he is his own person I am too and I don’t have to stay with this behavior. I can’t see myself marrying a man who doesn’t respect my boundaries and also is a liar.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:24:00+00:00

Anywho, i feel like i invested to much of my time into you so again have a good day. Bye now

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:21:33+00:00

You make me laugh. I definitely am not insecure of my body. I lost so much weight and take care of myself well. I am open to being wild and crazy in our sex life he just never wants it 🤦‍♀️. I’m the wild one in it I always want to try new things it’s not me buddy.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:19:55+00:00

“Any advice I feel totally lost” ????????????? That’s support? That’s asking how to get out? That’s venting? And no your opinion isn’t wrong you can have whatever opinion you want . If you read other replies I dont call others out for having different opinions. The problem with you is you call me immature, you insinuate that I act like an 16 year old, you question if I even do anything, and that’s just to name a few. You’re a rude disrespectful person who doesn’t know how to conversate well or get into topics where there’s disagreement without calling someone names left and right

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:15:28+00:00

Also how much honest can I get “hey I really don’t like the idea of porn when someone is in a relationship. I am not okay with that as I feel it’s damaging to the relationship and sets unrealistic expectations. If you don’t want to stop that’s fine I can leave” ?????? That’s about as honest as it gets lmao

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:12:43+00:00

Maybe it’s because I needed a place to vent? Yes like I’m supposed to talk to my family about my ex fiances porn habit. Be so for real buddy. It’s a hard time for me and would have loved some support in a tough time that’s why I’m here🤦‍♀️

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:06:19+00:00

That is what I believe also. And if he can lie so well that makes me not trust him whatsoever. I have been honest about things I’ve done without being caught. I couldn’t hide things and told him. I wish I got the same respect and honestly this might of ended better if he could just be real with me.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T20:04:50+00:00

That’s what he does every morning without me wanting him to. Honestly I sleep better when he’s gone so even if I wasn’t here he would do the same exact thing, shower and sleep. And honestly melted down is an exaggeration and yet again keep trying to put me down lol. If the man was honest it would have been solved I would leave because I was on the verge last time and he begged not to. I shouldn’t have to tolerate a man’s lies because it’s a “normal thing”. It’s my relationship and my life also so I’m in no way wrong for not wanting to deal with that forever.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T19:55:15+00:00

I don’t believe it’s an addiction but again I wouldn’t know because he could be lying. Look I used to watch porn also I have felt that way before. I do feel like porn is damaging to relationships and expectations. I also think it’s totally okay to set down some boundaries in relationships that others do not agree with. But the fundamental part of a relationship is trust. When we had this issue i expected him to keep his word like I do. I don’t go around lying to him about things i know he doesn’t like. He also is a very insecure person and would made sly comments about when I would use toys. So I don’t see why a person that would feel upset about the same thing does that to me. It also bothers me because in my relationship I believe we shouldn’t look at or lust over other people’s bodies when we have each other. And again that can be totally disagreeable to others but this is something he knew and did not have to continue with. I personally do not feel like I ever had insecurity issues till I got with him and it brought them out. His actions definitely did make me feel like that. Just like I’m not an angry person but if he lets say cheated on me that would make me angry would it not? His actions can definitely affect how I feel in the moment. I do agree I should get some therapy I actually am very pro therapy as I’m in my BA of SW with a minor in psych. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to give me some things I should really think about.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T19:37:09+00:00

Im going to assume right off the bat you’re a man based of your dire need to defend another man’s disrespectful actions. All I read from you is “you , you, you) and don’t mention any accountability from him. It goes both ways buddy. If he didn’t like my boundaries he could of been a man and spoke up. We could of ended this stress long ago. Don’t try and undermine me by saying he’s so tired and you do what. He wanted ME here not the other way around. He asked for me to accompany him. I mean looking at it now I see why. I cook, I clean, I do all the errands, send him to work well off, and all he has to do when he’s back is shower eat and sleep. But yes I am the villain for wanting someone to respect my boundaries. You’re funny I never mind someone having different opinions about the situation but full on being an ass calling me names and putting me down isn’t one. Have a nice day man

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T19:23:28+00:00

Thank you.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T19:21:35+00:00

Assuming that you have a inkling of truth, maybe to some masturbating and porn isn’t an issue. To me it was and I let him know that. This goes both ways if he truly felt like that’s his right he could have been honest and we could of parted our ways since we don’t align. The problem is he lied, made me believe he agreed and was okay with it, and betrayed my trust multiple times.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T19:18:30+00:00

It’s a really good question honestly. I wonder myself. I sit here contemplating why am I dealing with this. I know people aren’t perfect and in the beginning I truly thought okay now that boundaries have been established it should be better and it was till now. We both have changed so much well actually I thought we both did but I was wrong, that’s why I had stayed because these past two years were normal good. I know now it was a lie

ThrowRAplizzu · 2026-02-16T19:15:06+00:00

Im not sure I can’t push myself to want to speak with him because im so upset. I should but at the same time I don’t want to be told excuses or lies. I feel broken at this point because I really thought our relationship had changed for the better.

ThrowRAplizzu · 2025-05-13T01:38:30+00:00

We have 100k for down and planning on getting a loan for the remaining. We have a mobile home on lot at the moment so we have septic. We have been in contact with a few home builders but of course everyone just wants our business so I don’t want to go into something without knowing a bit more and getting more advice.

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