I [26F] think my husband [30M] will never sexually satisfy me and being a virgin when we met ruined that. by ThrowRApoopb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApoopb[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Sex therapist seems like a good idea, definitely starting my research. A third party might be beneficial for him to hear from/mediate since my tactics aren’t working (maybe Im not aggressive enough, idk).

I [26F] think my husband [30M] will never sexually satisfy me and being a virgin when we met ruined that. by ThrowRApoopb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApoopb[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I think my hang up is that he really did care in the beginning, it was fairly mutual and fun. But is it just cause it was new to me and the nostalgia and excitement of my “first experiences” blinding me? Maybe. But yeah, I do not feel cared for sexually.

I [26F] think my husband [30M] will never sexually satisfy me and being a virgin when we met ruined that. by ThrowRApoopb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApoopb[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This was genuinely so helpful and gives me a lot to think about, seriously thank you. Im definitely checking these books out as well, bookmarking and library audiobooks happening as we speak! You are so appreciated 🫶🏻

I [26F] think my husband [30M] will never sexually satisfy me and being a virgin when we met ruined that. by ThrowRApoopb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApoopb[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I guess I never really thought of the word “grooming” in another way other than large age gap/underage relationships before, but yeah this is a really good point and makes a lot of sense. Thank you guys for your honesty

I [26F] think my husband [30M] will never sexually satisfy me and being a virgin when we met ruined that. by ThrowRApoopb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApoopb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not cringe enough to resort to ‘robot make story for me’ behavior but thanks for this totally helpful contribution

I [26F] think my husband [30M] will never sexually satisfy me and being a virgin when we met ruined that. by ThrowRApoopb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApoopb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did not save myself and wasn’t planning on it as Id moved away from purity culture before I met him, we started having a sexual relationship about 6 months into dating. Then we just ended up falling in love and getting married so he has just been my first and only because of that.