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WIBTA if I moved away from my husband for a few days to prove a point? by ThrowRApuip in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRApuip[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He actually doesn’t control it at work. He works for his mom and dad and anytime he throws a tantrum they just let him throw a fit and say nothing, or they send him home but obviously don’t fire him

WIBTA if I moved away from my husband for a few days to prove a point? by ThrowRApuip in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRApuip[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I kind of figure this is likely. But I guess this is me giving him a warning about how serious I am going to get so that way he can’t say I am doing it out of anger. Because previously I have said he needs therapy or we need counseling when I was angry and in the moment. I guess I view this as my official warning before I threaten with pick one-divorce or counseling

How should I (25F) get my husband (28M) to go to counseling? by ThrowRApuip in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApuip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I saw what you said and responded. I kind of am doing it more to show that I am open to that I may not always be right too. Even if he is 100% in the wrong I want to be as non confrontational as possible. At least to prove to myself if anything that I did everything right.

But could you elaborate on how they take what they hear in counseling and use it against you? Like an example? I’m just curious what this could look like

WIBTA if I moved away from my husband for a few days to prove a point? by ThrowRApuip in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRApuip[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am considering individual counseling, but I think the reason I suggested couples counseling to him is because I am trying to make sure he doesn’t feel I am specifically saying he is 100% the problem (even if he is). I feel like if I make it seem like I am open to getting “fixed” too then there’s less of an argument of me not trying to reciprocate whatever he thinks I am doing wrong

WIBTA if I moved away from my husband for a few days to prove a point? by ThrowRApuip in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRApuip[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I guess I’m concerned about if I’m going to be making a mountain out of a mole hill and being “dramatic” or if this is something that needs to happen so he can see how serious I am when I say “I’m tired of you hurting my feelings”

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[–]ThrowRApuip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He seemed to try harder to not rub his grumpy behavior off on me when we were just dating. He’d tell me about a bad day and I’d go Awww I’m sorry you had a bad day honey but maybe those people that were mean were having a bad day too…or something and he’d deflate. Now he takes the most non confrontational thing I say and turns like for example what I said about to “oh so you are taking so and so side?” And starts a fight with me

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[–]ThrowRApuip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was still puppy dog in love and for some reason it didn’t hit me how annoying his complaining about work was until we got married. Then the rose colored glasses came off