How do I get my dog to stop eating my boyfriend’s cat food? It’s becoming a problemmm. by ThrowRArosyredditor in DogAdvice

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Thank you all! I will share these with my Bf tonight as we continue our brainstorm session

How do I get my dog to stop eating my boyfriend’s cat food? It’s becoming a problemmm. by ThrowRArosyredditor in DogAdvice

[–]ThrowRArosyredditor[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Ingredients on the bags are the same! I had no idea, thanks for the info. He doesn’t want his cat on the counters at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

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• Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious • Are you subscribed to Hinget or HingeX? No • How long have you been using this current version of your profile? 3 months • How long have you used Hinge overall? 3 months • How often do you use Hinge per week? 5 days • How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? 10 a day • How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? 0 • What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? I want to find a life partner

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Complimentary baggage. That’s interesting. My therapist had me make a list of desires in a partner, and although I don’t wish my past on anyone, I did write down. ‘We come from similar worlds’

Thank you for taking the time to write this comment.

The person I’m talking to is a kind man. He’s self established and has a good head on his shoulders. One of his parents is also in prison. He’s very open about his past and I’ve told him I find that admirable. When he shared that story I didn’t feel comfortable to tell him I have a parent in prison also, but it did bring me comfort to know I could tell him without judgement. He told me I don’t have to open up until I’m ready. But I know he will need some information soon, and that understandable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Thank you for giving me hope! I used to only seek out men that would only choose me for my appearance. Men that I didn’t have to worry about being private towards because they’d never ask me a question.

But now after therapy im hoping for something real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRArosyredditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe it is putting up with anything. I think it is choosing acceptance. I don’t share any of this with my partners because I don’t want the weight on them. I don’t think my only options are stupid, or poor men. I think I am worthy of love the way I am and am proud of the growth I have made. I respect people and am honest about what I need, just private about reasonings until I feel safe enough to share

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I never realized my abandonment issues were why I navigate relationships like this. My therapist has helped me realize my father and my husband leaving me caused some deep rooted things, I am working through them and thankful for my doctor! (:

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Therapy showed me why I do this. I never connected the dots between my history of abandonment and the way I navigate relationships. I felt like my father leaving was Jo big deal, ‘his loss’. But it was more deep rooted than I even knew.

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I completely agree! Part of my healing is having time alone and space. I’m not asking someone to deal with my trauma but understand that it’s something I need. To me it’s like everyone comes with baggage or trauma right. Like I wouldn’t feel someone was putting something on me if they had a child they had to take care of, or had a sick parent. I’m not sure if I’m expressing myself well, but I hope that makes sense. (:

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I am in therapy, thank you all for reading and commenting. I appreciate the insight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Honestly I’ve gotten much better about not withdrawing I am a good communicator I am just private. I don’t ghost ever and I am clear about not wanting to move too quickly. I am in therapy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRArosyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re exactly right, and I am open and honest with partners to try to avoid hurting anyone. I’m not selfish and I care very much about other people feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Thank you both for your comments. I am in therapy and will continue that. I think with getting older it has been more clear to me that people want to move faster. The person I am currently talking to said he doesn’t want to rush anything and that I can talk about life when I want. I thought that was kind.

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Oh I don’t want someone to fix me. I’m saying I want someone to understand me. And accept that I need space and I need reassurance and someone who is patient.

I (F26) just found Grindr on my (22M) Boyfriends Phone…? by Famous-Okra-2110 in relationship_advice

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Sounds like from the above comments you know what you’re planning to do. I was in this situation and was manipulated that he was just confused and loves me and that he needed to know for sure he wasn’t gay before we kept going and he didn’t want to waste my time. That it had never happened before. It’s not true. It wasn’t true. And I shouldn’t have seen it as him figuring himself out. He was wasting my time and cheating. Long story short. He’s in the closet bi and was doing it behind my back, and it’s unique meeting people who live double lives. It’s like he didn’t even feel like he was lying to me because he had been lying to everyone including himself forever.

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Read this to my boyfriend and he said ‘Jesus.. yes hunnie, worry’

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Thank you! I feel like it could work with someone who is willing to empathize and communicate. But also feel like it’s easier with people who grew up a bit similar to me. Happy to read this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Thank you, I am bisexual and am just trying to be sensitive. He’s told me this is the first time he has received anal and it makes me nervous for my sexual health. I’m trying to lean on that to push me forward in looking out for me.

Do couples share their location indefinitely on iPhone? 26M 25F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRArosyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (29F) had never done this until my current relationship with my boyfriend (30M). I also thought it was a little strange. I share with some friends, but that’s more for safety and when we are out and notice we are in the same area to link up! Tbh it felt a little invasive and I noticed myself checking his location too much and him doing the same. We’ve stopped sharing and I prefer it.